St. Louis’s Clayton Lessor, PhD, LPC to Join Coalition for a White House Council on Men and Boys St. Louis (March 11, 2019) – Local expert and author Dr. Clay Lessor has been appointed to the steering committee for the Coalition for a White House Council on Men and Boys. Dr. Lessor has dedicated […]
Saving Our Sons
A father doesn’t have to live apart from his son to be absent. In many families the father is physically present, living in the same house as his son, acting as the head of the household, but for whatever reason, his mind and his energy are somewhere else.
When I begin working with a family; usually regarding their son, during an initial assessment I can discern quickly if it’s a “shame based” family. Shame based families are about controlling behavior to conform (i.e. shame more to get behavior we want). Whether intentional or unintentional it’s fundamental that we clean that up first. Here’s why….
My name is Clayton Lessor, PhD, LPC and it is my life’s mission to work with adolescent boys, I have done just that for the last 25 years. I am a licensed professional counselor, facilitator and author. I have a new book out titled “Generation of Men: How to raise your son to be a […]
This is an extremely crucial time for our adolescent boys. And I’ll say it again “our boys are in trouble!” It’s time to be very careful and diligent as parents to refuse to allow your sons to be labeled. Headed in the Wrong Direction I know that if we, as a society, continue this trajectory–the […]
Do you ask yourself “what if?” Are you prepared, or have what I like to call a “Plan B?” I personally go through the exercise of both. I start by asking myself “what if,” and based on the answer I put together my “Plan B!” Learned My Lesson Early Growing up in a house with […]
The Bashing The American Psychological Assoc. (APA) released new “guidelines” on how psychologists should begin to deal with men and boys. They claim that their research proves traditional masculinity is causing men and boys to do a plethora of terrible things. On the heels of that very disturbing release was a new commercial by Gillette, […]
Exactly a year ago I announced my second book would be out shortly! Much has changed, the title the timing as well as the look! What didn’t change is the manuscript. I hope you’ll feel as I do, it was worth the wait! Staring 2019 in the face, I am ready for it to be […]
Have you heard the term Parent Alienation Syndrome, or PAS? It’s not a disorder, it is a behavior that I see on a regular basis in my practice. In a nutshell, it is a term used to describe distinctive behaviors shown by children who have been psychologically manipulated. These behaviors include unwarranted fear, disrespect or […]
“If” you have been subscribed to my newsletter since 2015, you’ve read this before! If not, you’re in for a treat. It’s time for me to share again as it remains one of my favorite poems. Originally published in 1910 by Rudyard Kipling, it’s still very relevant today. Enjoy!