Posts Tagged ‘life lessons’
Raising Sons: Giving Boys What They Need
I was honored when Aisha Sultan, home and family editor of the St. Louis Post-Dispatch recently wrote an article about my journey, and how it led to my life’s work. Raising Sons: In Case You Missed It The article is titled “Giving boys what they need when fathers are absent” and appropriately published on Fathers Day. …
Read MoreRaising Sons? Helping Solve the Mystery
Cracking the code! Solving the mystery! How would you like to know what your adolescent boy is missing as you witness him changing from a boy to a man? He Needs a “Modern Day Rite of Passage” I’m often asked what is a “rite of passage?” It’s a term that most people equate with times past. We have forgotten the importance…
Read More“If-” An Inspiration
I’ve shared this poem by Rudyard Kipling, originally published in 1910 with you before. It’s not only one of my favorites; it is worthy of sharing again as I believe “If-” says it all! “If-“ If you…
Read MoreParenting Tip: Is Your Son Grieving?
Is Your Son Grieving a Loss? There are many definitions of grief, the one I like best is by The Grief Recovery Institute: “Grief is the normal and natural emotional reaction to loss or change of any kind. Of itself, grief is neither a pathological condition nor a personality disorder. Grief is the conflicting feelings caused by…
Read MoreIs My Son Smoking Pot or Drinking? What to Do Next
Are you afraid your son is smoking pot, drinking or worse? My Son Would Never Do That I hope you’re not deceiving yourself; drugs and alcohol are readily available EVERYWHERE! He can escape his feelings by “numbing out” and find refuge by drinking or smoking pot. And worse let’s not forget the huge opioid epidemic that’s sweeping the…
Read MoreAdvancing The Work!
I am excited! I am in the final phase of my Ph.D. work! What I’ve Been Up To One very important component of my dissertation was to gather data to support my topic Difference of a Counselor Facilitated Adolescent Boys’ Group on Behavior. I had the privilege of facilitating The Quest Project® to a great group of boys at Woodridge Middle School…
Read MoreParenting Tips: For Graduation & Beyond
Graduation is a major milestone for your son. Celebrate his accomplishment! Congratulations-He Made It! This is a very exciting time! I congratulate you if you are honoring a graduate in your home. It’s a time to honor the achievement and begin to plan the next steps if you haven’t already done so. If your son plans to attend college…
Read MoreParenting Boys: The Importance of Activity
Parenting Boys and the Importance of Sports Activity You’ve heard it said many times “boys are physical and visual!” That statement is not only true, it’s proven. This inspired me to write about parenting boys and sports activity. Sports enables adolescent boys to get mentoring from a coach and a “release” of stored/pent-up energy with their peers. Keep Your Son…
Read MoreRaising Sons? Signs He’s Becoming A Man
From a Boy To a Man How will you know when your adolescent son begins to transition into a man? It won’t happen overnight, and there will be times when you wish it would! Signs of Change: Your Son’s Becoming a Man At approximately 11-13 yrs. of age “on average” a boy produces a greater amount of testosterone. The production…
Read MoreParenting Sons: 5 Things You Need To Know About Peer Pressure
Peer Pressure and Healthy Male Mentor As your adolescent boy grows and matures it is increasingly important that he has a strong relationship with dad; if dad is healthy and safe. If that is not the case, a healthy male mentor (grandpa, uncle, stepdad, coach). You hear me say this often, I have dads tell me they’re doing…
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