From Boy to Man
The Father He Watches
Why Your Son Is Studying Every Man in the Room There’s a boy in every classroom, every dugout, every youth group who is doing something the adults around him don’t realize. He’s watching. Not the way kids watch TV or watch a game. He’s watching the way a student watches a master. He’s studying. Every…
Read MoreWhen Your Son Won’t Talk to You
What to Do Monday Morning When He Shuts Down She was sitting in my office, hands wrapped around a coffee cup she hadn’t touched, and she said the thing I’ve heard a thousand mothers say: “He used to tell me everything. Now I can’t get a single word out of him.” Her son was thirteen.…
Read MoreWhat Thirty Years of Working with Angry Boys Has Taught Me
When Everything Changed The first boy who changed everything was fourteen. Big for his age. Referred for “behavioral problems”—which is clinical shorthand for “nobody knows what to do with him.” He’d been expelled from two schools. His mother was exhausted. His stepfather didn’t want him in the house. Every adult in his life had the…
Read MoreForgiveness Without Reconciliation
It’s the question that stops every man in his tracks. I’ve heard it hundreds of times—in therapy sessions, in men’s groups, in quiet conversations after workshops. The words change, but the question doesn’t: Does healing mean I have to let my father back in and forgive him? The answer is no. And that…
Read MoreParents: Meet the “New Nanny”
Are you busy raising your kids? If so, you have responsibilities that include entertaining, educating, and guiding! Likely you’ve provided your kids a phone (all the other kids have one) and allowed this phone, who I refer to as “the nanny,” to replace many of the roles a parent is responsible for. The phone has…
Read MoreParents Beware-New Nanny!
We’re all busy raising our kids; responsibilities include entertaining, educating, and guiding. Likely they have a phone and you’ve allowed the phone (who I refer to as the new nanny) to replace many of the roles a parent is responsible for. It’s a new reliable, relatively inexpensive nanny. Am I right?
Read MoreThe Quest Project Online-Overview
Are you worried about your son? Here is an overview of Modules 1-10 of the The Quest Project Online where he will learn how to thrive and survive his adolescent years!
Read MoreThe Quest Project Online-Conflict Resolution
In Module 7 of The Quest Project Online titled “Conflict Resolution,” participants learn conflict is part of life; most importantly they learn the best way to resolve it! Check out the sneak peek here.
Read MoreThe Quest Project Online-Goal Setting
The Quest Project Online is made up of 10 modules. By watching this short video, a “sneak peek,” you’ll get insight into Module 2 which is titled Goal Setting!
Read MoreHappy Father’s Day!
On this special day, Father’s Day, I hope all the fathers out there remember they are the “conductors of the family train!” If you follow me, you know that another one of my favorite poems is by Rudyard Kipling “If.” My dear friend and United States Air Force buddy sent me this poem. Please enjoy!
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