Born the eldest of three to Russell and Doris Lessor, I grew up in a small south city neighborhood in St. Louis. On the outside we looked like a typical happy lower middle-class family, on the inside it was a nightmare of alcoholism and abuse. I didn’t grow up privileged, I grew up making a […]
From Boy to Man
It’s time for a new school year to begin. As you monitor grades, homework and schedules, don’t forget to watch for social changes that may be related to peer pressure. Peer pressure is by definition: Social pressure by members of one’s peer group to take a certain action, adopt certain values, or otherwise conform in […]
The coronavirus pandemic of 2020 has changed our lifestyle and routines. Let’s focus on school; there are a myriad of reasons for getting back to school! In my years of research, I find this to be the most compelling.
A rite of passage for a young male is a transition, and in its simplest terms means “changing from a boy to a man.” Unfortunately today in our society we have forgotten and moved away from recognizing and honoring this time in a young man’s life. The result is Our Boys are in Trouble! If you read […]
Father and son share an incredibly special bond, it happens naturally! Be careful not to miss the especially important role you play in your son’s life. Father and Son Over the years working with adolescent boys in The Quest Project® I am constantly reminded of the important role dad plays in the healthy development of […]
With integrity, you have nothing to fear, since you have nothing to hide. With integrity, you will do the right thing, so you will have no guilt. -Zig Ziglar Truer words were never spoken! Core Values So what does this have to do with raising sons? Integrity is a core value; it must be taught […]
These are the “BIG FOUR” feelings! Regardless of age or gender, these basic four emotions – mad, sad, glad, and afraid – are appropriate for you. Feeling, expressing and processing your feelings is healthy and highly recommended! Here’s why. Feeling Mad Feeling “mad” or angry about something? Oh no! This feeling scares everyone. I’m amazed […]
These days many single parent Moms are doing the best they can raising their adolescent son(s). They don’t need me telling them how hard it is, but they do need help understanding what a boy goes through as he transitions to a man. This is especially true when dad is physically or emotionally absent.
“If” you have been subscribed to my newsletter since 2015, you’ve read this before! If not, you’re in for a treat. It’s time for me to share again as it remains one of my favorite poems. Originally published in 1910 by Rudyard Kipling, it’s still very relevant today. Enjoy!
Do you struggle understanding a “rite of passage” and what it represents? Have you contemplated or wondered why so many males have lost their way? The Industrial Revolution may have given us a more “modern” society, but it took away the crucial time, teaching and wisdom a father passed on to his son…..a “rite of […]