The Father He Watches

Why Your Son Is Studying Every Man in the Room There’s a boy in every classroom, every dugout, every youth group who is doing something the adults around him don’t realize. He’s watching. Not the way kids watch TV or watch a game. He’s watching the way a student watches a master. He’s studying. Every…

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When Your Son Won’t Talk to You

What to Do Monday Morning When He Shuts Down She was sitting in my office, hands wrapped around a coffee cup she hadn’t touched, and she said the thing I’ve heard a thousand mothers say: “He used to tell me everything. Now I can’t get a single word out of him.” Her son was thirteen.…

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Forgiveness Without Reconciliation

    It’s the question that stops every man in his tracks. I’ve heard it hundreds of times—in therapy sessions, in men’s groups, in quiet conversations after workshops. The words change, but the question doesn’t: Does healing mean I have to let my father back in and forgive him?  The answer is no. And that…

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The Five Father Wounds—Which One Is Your Son Carrying?

  Something is wrong with your son, and you can’t name it. He’s angry all the time-or he’s disappeared into his room and won’t come out.  His grades have collapsed. He’s in trouble at school.  Maybe he’s said something that scared you.  You’ve tried everything-talking, consequences, therapy, backing off, pushing harder. Nothing sticks.

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Parents: Meet the “New Nanny”

Are you busy raising your kids? If so, you have responsibilities that include entertaining, educating, and guiding!  Likely you’ve provided your kids a phone (all the other kids have one) and allowed this phone, who I refer to as “the nanny,” to replace many of the roles a parent is responsible for. The phone has…

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Helping Boys Navigate Adolescence

Clayton Lessor

When the counseling department at Wydown Middle School reached out and invited me to participate in their “Speaker Series;” focused on boys navigating adolescence, you know my answer was yes! 

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Parents Beware-New Nanny!

We’re all busy raising our kids; responsibilities include entertaining, educating, and guiding.  Likely they have a phone and you’ve allowed the phone (who I refer to as the new nanny) to replace many of the roles a parent is responsible for. It’s a new reliable, relatively inexpensive nanny.  Am I right?   

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Back to School-Behavior Problems?

School is back to in-person classroom learning! Your kids are going to go through some adjustments.  Your son likely had more freedom to be active over the past year; the transition back to class will likely be challenging.

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