Parenting Boys? This is Must Read!

This is an extremely crucial time for our adolescent boys.  Let me repeat, “our boys are in trouble!” As parents, it’s time to be very careful and diligent; refuse to allow your sons to be labeled.

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Parent(s)-Is Your Family “Shame Based?”

When I begin working with a family; usually regarding their son, during an initial assessment I can discern quickly if it’s a “shame based” family.  Shame based families are about controlling behavior to conform (i.e. shame more to get behavior we want). Whether intentional or unintentional it’s fundamental that we clean that up first. Here’s why….

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Mentored-Mentor-Mentoring

In honor of National Mentor Day on October 27, 2020 I would like to share my experience as a mentor to young men, ages 11-16 who work every Saturday during the summer months in a garden. About the “Patch” The name of the garden is “Charity Patch.”  Seven years ago, my wife and I set…

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The Special Bond of Father and Son

Father and son share an incredibly special bond, it happens naturally!  Be careful not to miss the especially important role you play in your son’s life. Father and Son Over the years working with adolescent boys in The Quest Project® I am constantly reminded of the important role dad plays in the healthy development of…

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Feelings: Mad, Sad, Glad and Afraid

These are the “BIG FOUR” feelings!  Regardless of age or gender, these basic four emotions – mad, sad, glad, and afraid – are appropriate for you.  Feeling, expressing and processing your feelings is healthy and highly recommended! Here’s why. Feeling Mad Feeling “mad” or angry about something?  Oh no!  This feeling scares everyone.  I’m amazed…

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Single Parent Mom Raising Son(s)

These days many single parent Moms are doing the best they can raising their adolescent son(s).  They don’t need me telling them how hard it is, but they do need help understanding what a boy goes through as he transitions to a man.  This is especially true when dad is physically or emotionally absent.

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Simply….. “If”

“If” you have been subscribed to my newsletter since 2015, you’ve read this before!  If not, you’re in for a treat.  It’s time for me to share again as it remains one of my favorite poems.  Originally published in 1910 by Rudyard Kipling, it’s still very relevant today.  Enjoy!

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God Made a Farmer

Do you struggle understanding a “rite of passage” and what it represents? Have you contemplated or wondered why so many males have lost their way?  The Industrial Revolution may have given us a more “modern” society, but it took away the crucial time, teaching and wisdom a father passed on to his son…..a “rite of…

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The Quest Project: Foundation

When you build something you always start with the foundation; your foundation must be strong and built to stand the test of time!  Over the next few weeks you’ll learn how the foundation of The Quest Project was “built!” The Quest Project®-A Modern Day Rite of Passage™ program was designed to replicate the teachings and…

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Raising Boys? Research to Support the Facts

I’ve been providing you a series of blogs that contain information you need to know if you’re raising boys.  Starting with “Economically Undesirable Men”  where I shared the disturbing article claiming unmarried women are finding today’s unmarried men “undesirable.” The facts aren’t an attempt to justify, they are meant as a call to action for…

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