Three and 4 of 9 Reasons ALL Boys Need a Rite-of-Passage

Last week I expanded on what it means when a boy begins to transition to a man and the importance of goal setting.  This week I give more detail on both anger and conflict.  During adolescence a boy begins to self regulate anger and he learns how to resolve conflict.  Teaching, guidance and support is critical. Anger-One of the “Big 4”…

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First 2 of 9 Reasons ALL Boys Need a Rite-of-Passage

  When I wrote the 9 Reasons ALL Boys Need a Modern-Day Rite-of-Passage there was a surge in interest!  That tells me parents of boys are waking up to the critical needs of their sons.  They’re asking themselves-“What’s missing?”  Over the next few weeks, I’ll take those Top 9 Reasons and break them down and…

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9 Reasons ALL Boys Need A Modern-Day Rite-of-Passage

Rite-of-passage for males is a transition, and in its simplest terms means “changing from a boy to a man.”  Sounds easy right?  It’s not! It’s unfortunate that today in our society we have forgotten and moved away from recognizing and honoring this time in a young man’s life.  The result is Our Boys are in Trouble! If you read…

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A Society of Absent Fathers

We’re all entitled to an opinion, right?  Do you remember Andy Rooney, he used to give his straight forward and sometimes controversial opinion at the end of 60 Minutes?  I’d like to share mine and it has to do with this, the effect the absent father is having on society. R-E-S-P-E-C-T I’ve not been shy about…

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Dr. Clay on The Tom Roten Morning Show

Can you spare a few minutes to listen to my recent interview with Tom Roten of The Tom Roten Morning Show?  I think you’ll find it helpful; we cover many important topics.  What We Talk About

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The Quest Project-A Young Man’s Testimony

There is no better compliment or greater satisfaction than receiving a testimonial from one of my clients.  Typically I hear from a parent, in this case, it comes from a 16-year-old young man! Testimonial The first time I stepped into Dr. Lessor’s office I had a lot of thoughts on my mind. The relationship between…

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The Quest Project® Manifesto

As a 20+ year retired Captain of the United States Air Force it goes without saying I love my country and am proud to be an American! Where else do you have the opportunity to be who you want to be, achieve your goals and debate your beliefs through freedom of speech. My observation, we…

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To: Dad

To all the fathers out there who are committed to be the best DAD they can be. When I refer to fathers in my blogs, I also emphasize and stress the importance of being a “responsible, healthy and safe role model.” More and more fathers are asking me “how do I be a good dad?”  My answer is…

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Fantasy Son

  Every parent has hopes and dreams for their child; a fantasy!  You looked at your newborn boy and saw endless possibilities. He’ll be a doctor, star athlete, CEO of a corporation or President of the United States! The problem with this kind of thinking is that there is usually—in fact, always—a difference between this fantasy son you’ve created…

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A Special Message For Mom

This is dedicated to all the Mom’s out there who are raising son(s)!  Thanks To Mom If you’re a single Mom, you don’t need me to tell you how hard it is raising kids alone.  Most mom’s I talk to feel they are filling the role of dad too.  You are most likely working a full-time…

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