Raising Boys? 5 Warning Signs of Trouble

As the new school year gets underway, it’s a good time to reiterate the warning signs of trouble if you notice a change in your son.  It may be typical angst; here’s the difference. Over the past 20 years I have helped countless male adolescents make the transition from boyhood to adult life with my program, The Quest Project.  Some were…

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Parenting: When to Cope-When to Heal

Lately the new “buzz word” in my field is teaching children “coping skills.”  Coping by definition: Coping means to invest one’s own conscious effort, to solve personal and interpersonal problems, in order to try to master, minimize or tolerate stress and conflict. I see it everywhere and here I’ll explain the difference in coping and…

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Challenge for Change!

I don’t watch a lot of T.V., however I do watch the local and national news.  It’s important to know and be aware of what’s happening locally and around the country.  One universal message you hear at both levels are stories of boys in trouble. For me as a PhD, Licensed Professional Counselor working with…

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Saving Our Adolescent Sons

Art Holiday has a rich history as one of St. Louis finest reporters.  When he asked to do a story on The Quest Project, I was honored.  However, I first needed permission from both the boys and their parents; once we all agreed I humbly accepted and invited him to group!

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Parenting Tip: Want vs Need

Each week I contemplate the subject matter (the theme) that I feel is the most relevant and helpful to the parents reading my blogs.  This is a sensitive subject; it’s one that I see parents struggle with.  Parents of children at any/all ages.

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Adolescent Boys and Anxiety

Why are so many young boys experiencing anxiety?  As a researcher and facilitator of adolescent boys I am particularly concerned with the number of cases I see. Adolescents Experiencing Anxiety Generally, anxiety is a term used for nervousness, fear, apprehension and worry.  If left untreated, chronic anxiety can lead to obsessive-compulsive behavior.  And typically, but…

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Parenting Boys? Competition is Good

I am constantly reading, researching and contemplating the best methods for raising a happy, healthy and responsible adolescent boy.  There is always an article boasting “the latest/greatest way.” I am addressing here the subject of competition from the American Counseling Assoc. (ACA)!

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Boys Here on Planet Earth

I’m sure you remember a few years ago the book that said men and women are from different planets!  An interesting spin on the fact that men and women, boys and girls are “wired” very differently.  Keep this in mind as I share a recent situation. One of the families I’m working with was getting…

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Dr. Clay on “Big 550-KTRS”

I had a very poignant conversation with Jennifer Blome of  The Jennifer and Jay Show.  We talk about my life growing up with an abusive alcoholic father and how it destroyed our relationship.  It took courage, forgiveness and the ability to seek help to turn my life around.  We cover it all in this interview! 

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Beyond Risk & Back Podcast

I recently had a great interview with Aaron Huey, founder of Fire Mountain on his show “Beyond Risk & Back.” Aaron works with “at risk” teens through his residential programs in Colorado. Aaron is a true “man among men!”

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