Looking for parenting tips on what’s happening with your 11-13 year old son? I’ve worked with over 2,000 boys for more than 20 years in The Quest Project® a 10-week Modern Day Rite of Passage® program. We meet in age appropriate groups: 11 to 13, 14 to 16, and 17 to 19-year-olds. Here I focus […]
What’s the difference in discipline and punishment you ask? There’s a big difference, in fact a huge difference between them. Let me explain. Punishment Your son has broken the rules; he’s been caught drinking or smoking, maybe a bad report card. You must do “something,” he needs to be punished. The way to stop a child from misbehaving […]
A rite of passage for a young male is a transition, and in its simplest terms means “changing from a boy to a man.” Unfortunately today in our society we have forgotten and moved away from recognizing and honoring this time in a young man’s life. The result is Our Boys are in Trouble! If you read […]
Father and son share an incredibly special bond, it happens naturally! Be careful not to miss the especially important role you play in your son’s life. Father and Son Over the years working with adolescent boys in The Quest Project® I am constantly reminded of the important role dad plays in the healthy development of […]
These days many single parent Moms are doing the best they can raising their adolescent son(s). They don’t need me telling them how hard it is, but they do need help understanding what a boy goes through as he transitions to a man. This is especially true when dad is physically or emotionally absent.
The Quest Project: Foundation was in place and The Quest Project: Structure fit nicely on the foundation! The research was nearly complete, and it was time to bring it all together with the design. Design: A Modern-Day Rite of Passage™ Adler-Locus of Control Adler finds people to consist of an internal locus of control and […]
Systems are all around us. We have stereo systems, navigation systems, computer systems; the human body is a system! Periodically they ALL require a check-up and maintenance. A “system” is: a set of things working together as parts of a mechanism or an interconnecting network
Did you see the movie “Oblivion?” It came out in 2013 and starred Tom Cruise. “Jack” and his partner were tasked with “post-apocalyptic” missions; everyday they were asked to answer this question from headquarters “are you still an effective team?” Teamwork Makes the Dream Work! When I counsel couples one of the exercises we go […]
As the new school year gets underway, it’s a good time to reiterate the warning signs of trouble if you notice a change in your son. It may be typical angst; here’s the difference. Over the past 20 years I have helped countless male adolescents make the transition from boyhood to adult life with my program, The Quest Project. Some were […]
I don’t watch a lot of T.V., however I do watch the local and national news. It’s important to know and be aware of what’s happening locally and around the country. One universal message you hear at both levels are stories of boys in trouble. For me as a PhD, Licensed Professional Counselor working with […]