The Quest Project-A Testimonial

Sharing a testimonial that is both validating and inspiring for me in the work that I do in The Quest Project®. Saying Thank You After a recent The Quest Project graduation, I received a very special Thank You note from a parent.  Here’s what they said: Dr. Clay, We wanted to say THANK YOU for…

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“Saving Our Sons” on VoicEd Radio

A recent conversation with Stephen Hurley of VoicEd radio in Canada.  Stephen is doing good work bringing important educational topics into the homes of many! Click here to hear our conversation.  voicEd Radio Changing the Way You Talk About Education   Watch for “Saving Our Sons for Dads-A Fathers Guide to Raising Good Men,” due out early 2018!  Be…

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Raising Sons? Managing Difficult Feelings

The sound of laughter is sweet; we all love to hear a baby giggle, kids and adults laughing!  It makes us smile just hearing it.  But what happens when your son’s sad or mad? No Laughing Matter I talk and write a lot about feelings, “The Big 4”-mad, sad, glad and afraid,  more importantly about how…

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“Saving Our Sons for Dads”-Update

What’s better than “Saving Our Sons-A Parent’s Guide to Preparing Boys for Success?”  It’s writing my second book “Saving Our Sons for Dads-A Fathers Guide to Raising Good Men!”  It was exactly 2 years ago I was finalizing the first SOS.  I knew back then that it was extremely important that I get to work on…

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Core Value-Honesty

You’ve heard the proverb by Benjamin Franklin, “honesty is the best policy” many times I’m sure.  This is a reminder, that means to be honest with your kids too! Better Off Not Knowing I think parents convince themselves (at times) that not being completely honest with their children is a way to protect them.  In some cases,…

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Adolescent Son In Trouble? Final Step

Over the past 3 weeks I’ve laid out the steps to take if you suspect trouble with your adolescent son.  Unfortunately, when the first three steps (boundaries & limits, counseling and intensive outpatient) have failed it’s time to move to the final step.  The Final Step=Intensive Inpatient If you’ve reached this step with your adolescent son it’s…

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Adolescent Son In Trouble? Step Two

Last week in Step #1 we covered the importance of setting healthy boundaries & limits in conjunction with natural consequences.  Many times, parents can avoid trouble with their adolescent son by starting there. When that doesn’t work, move to Step #2: Step #2=Seek Counseling Many boys don’t know how to deal with the pain that comes…

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Domestic Violence and Abuse

Every year in October there is a focus on domestic violence.  I listen to stories of survival, most of the time women with children, and their horrific experiences.  I wonder why we only hear about these stories in October? Frightened Little Boy I grew up in the “South City,” if you’re from St. Louis you know exactly…

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Parenting Boys? The 5 Signs of Trouble

Don’t ignore the warning signs, you may think your son is just going through a phase, but that’s not always the case.  Your son could be in trouble.  It may be typical angst; here’s the difference. Over the past 20 years I have helped countless troubled teens make the transition from boyhood to adult life with my program, The Quest Project. The Warning Signs Boys are…

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Is Your Son Being Bullied? 10 Signs To Watch For

  Bullied: Online & Offline Today we not only deal with the “bully on the playground,” we must watch out for the ones that lurk on social media!  Bullies can have a devastating effect on your child. What Parent’s Can Do As a parent, the best way to make sure your child doesn’t become a victim of bullying…

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