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Spring Time Renewal

Spring is one of my favorite seasons.  The days get longer and the sun shines brighter, it feels like a time of renewal.  I tend to feel more like setting expectations for myself in the Spring.  Resolutions Are For Everyday I have never been one to do New Years resolutions; I don’t believe you “resolve” to […]

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Modern Day Rite Of Passage

Rite of Passage? I’m often asked what is a “rite of passage?”  It’s a term that most people equate with times past.  We have forgotten the importance of rite of passage with not only our boys, but girls too. Look Out Things Are Changing Rite of passage is a transition, and in it’s simplest terms means “changing from a boy […]

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The Best Dad

I’d like to share the story of a young man and his dad. This young man and his family are actually one of the Case Studies in my forthcoming book “Saving Our Sons” A Parent’s Guide to Preparing Boys for Success. Meet Dylan “Dylan” was full of anger the first time we met. According to […]

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Keeping It Real

Today as I began to write I was keenly aware I was sad.  What was I sad about?  It was exactly 2 years ago today that my father-in-law died, and I was sad.  That led me to my inspiration for this blog – grief and grieving. By Definition There are many definitions of grief, the one I […]

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Remember Sandy Hook?

Remember Sandy Hook? Why now you ask do I bring up Sandy Hook?  Well as many of you know I am coming to the end of my PhD studies; as a matter of fact I’m finishing my last two courses as I write this.  A recent assignment was to discuss the horrible events that took place […]

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What Has Happened To Guys?

I was watching the movie “Intern” the other night with Ann Hathaway and Robert De Niro.  To be honest I prefer a good science fiction or action movie.  Once in a while my wife needs a break so we watch a love story or comedy.  I really liked this movie, aside from Ann Hathaway crying […]

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When Is Abandonment Good?

The issue of abandonment is high with troubled teenage boys. Naturally, when I come across a title on an article that reads “What It Really Means When a Father Abandons His Children,” I’m going to read it! Gone Husband – Abandonment This Mom was talking about how her husband of eight years said he was […]

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Rudyard Kipling’s “If–” – Inspiration for Your Son

A couple of years ago my wife gave me a new briefcase for my birthday.  It’s a great briefcase; I think I like it because it looks worn and rugged.  She told me it was called “the Kipling bag.”  As I was unpacking it and admiring the cool details I noticed tucked in one of […]

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The Quest Project – An Overview

I’ve talked a lot about The Quest Project®, how it got its start, and some of the issues adolescent boys are dealing with when they come to me.  I thought it would be a good idea to give you an overview of the program itself. This Is How It Begins When a parent reaches out for my help, we start by […]

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How Can My Son Be Depressed?

It seems hard to imagine.  Most parents can’t believe their son could possibly be depressed.  What in the world does he have to be depressed about? The “Dad Wound” Of the more than 1,800 boys who have gone through my program, the majority were in some stage of depression.  How can that be, you ask? 

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