Parenting Tip: How to Resolve Conflict
Parenting & Conflict Conflict is a part of life. I know people who thoroughly enjoy conflict and others who avoid it at all costs. One of the cornerstones I cover with adolescent boys and their parents is “conflict resolution.” By utilizing my process the family is able to communicate more effectively and peacefully. You-You-You One of…
Read MoreMidwest Book Review Recommends “Saving Our Sons: A Parent’s Guide to Preparing Boys for Success” for Their Parenting Shelf
Thumbs Up Getting reviews on work you’ve put your heart and soul into is so gratifying! Don’t we all love getting a thumbs up? The Quest Project® continues to have one success after the next. One of this week’s highlights was being reviewed by Midwest Book Review. Established in 1976, Midwest Book Review publishes…
Read MoreTherapy and Group Work: The Importance of a Qualified Facilitator
A Look Behind the Scenes One thing I have not shared is I’m a facilitator of The Quest Project®. I am in the “trenches” with the boys that come to see me. I do this work myself, I’m good at it. I know how to quickly uncover and get to the wound an adolescent boy carries. Since 2000…
Read MoreRaising Sons: Integrity, Instilling as a Core Value
With integrity, you have nothing to fear, since you have nothing to hide. With integrity, you will do the right thing, so you will have no guilt. Zig Ziglar I came across this quote recently. I couldn’t get the word “integrity” off of my mind, I ultimately came across this Forbes’ article. It’s a…
Read MoreRaising Sons? Meet Clayton Lessor
Would you like to know who I am and why I do this work? A Sad Little Boy My childhood in quiet suburban South City was anything but quiet. I lived in fear of my dad. I spent most of my time at school tired and scared because I’d been awake most of the night before scared…
Read MoreParenting Boys? 3 Stages of Trouble
When parenting boys, most parents can’t believe their son is troubled. What in the world does he have to be troubled about? It’s interesting the word troubled can be perceived differently to each of us. An example of two extremes is: “being afraid to talk to a girl (mild),” to “committing a crime (severe).” When I say, every boy is troubled, the…
Read MoreRaising a Son: The 5 Things No One Ever Told You About
Raising a son can be difficult, especially if you’re a mom “going it alone.” There is a time in your son’s life that having a healthy male role model is imperative- and that time is when he is transitioning from a boy to a man. Suddenly, during this time your son acts like he can’t stand…
Read MoreParenting Boys: What You Need To Know
Are you parenting boys? Is dad active in his life? Do you worry he could be in trouble? Parenting Boys: Boys Without Fathers One of the most common issues our boys face is growing up without their father. According to estimates, one in three boys currently lives in a home without a father…
Read MoreRaising Sons: “Priceless” Co-Parenting Tip
If you are raising sons and co-parenting with your ex, chances are communication is strained at best. Here is a parenting tip I think could be valuable and helpful. For the best results both parents need to be on same page in both homes-creating a team; more importantly the kids need to know mom and dad…
Read MoreRaising Sons: Parenting Basics-Safety First
Raising Sons: Parenting Basics As this year draws to a close and I reflect back on the many young men, families and professionals I have met both locally and online, I felt this is a good topic to discuss again. Far too often in my practice I meet families that are in the “cycle of…
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