Homework Versus Video Games

Do you get excuses from your son on why his homework and/or his chores didn’t get done?  I have some suggestions that may help. “Just a Minute!” My guess is you hear “I will, just a minute” a lot!  Based on my experience with the boys I see, homework and chores are not his priority, video games…

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Sharing My Message on The McGraw Show

It was an honor to be a guest on The McGraw Show!  I want to share the interview with all of you.  KTRS “The Big 550” McGraw Millhaven and Kelly Jackson, both Emmy nominated journalists, are some of St. Louis finest radio personalities.  I was honored to be invited to talk about “Saving Our Sons-A Parent’s Guide…

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Parenting Boys? The 5 Signs of Trouble

Don’t ignore the warning signs, you may think your son is just going through a phase, but that’s not always the case.  Your son could be in trouble.  It may be typical angst; here’s the difference. Over the past 20 years I have helped countless troubled teens make the transition from boyhood to adult life with my program, The Quest Project. The Warning Signs Boys are…

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The Quest Project-For Men

I facilitated my first The Quest Project® back in 2000.  I never imagined back then that today I’d be facilitating that same program (modified for adults) to a group of men. I have discovered The Quest Project is as meaningful to men as it is to the adolescent boys.  As an example, imagine a group of six men…

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Raising Boys? Helpful Tips On Identity

Do you know what it means to be your “authentic self?”  Do you know your son’s unique “gift?”  The Gift! Many times, I see young men that are depressed, insecure, and frankly unsure of “who” they really are.   They feel no matter what they do it isn’t good enough.  They are constantly trying to live up to a parent(s) expectations by…

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Parenting Teens? Heroin Spares No One

The stories are disturbing; teens addicted to and dying from heroin.   It’s happening right under our nose, in our own backyard, rich and poor communities.  It is pervasive, from schools to homes to the streets and parks. The numbers are staggering.  But they don’t show the complete picture. “My Son Wouldn’t Do Drugs” That’s the most common response…

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Walking Tall-A Personal Journey

The Journey of a Thousand Miles Please allow me to share my excitement and experience.  I just walked for my PhD!  An accomplishment that I’ve been working toward my entire life.  Obstacles were abundant, but when you set a goal you just keep going until you achieve it.  I did it and it feels amazing!  I am officially…

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An Unexpected Blessing

I admit I like to share a good story!  This is one that warmed my heart. For most of us going to the grocery store is a necessity  We’re out of milk or need something for dinner!  In other words, we don’t do it for fun!  This week I witnessed something truly awesome while standing…

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Raising Sons? Discipline vs Punishment

Discipline or Punishment? What’s the difference you ask!  There’s a big difference between discipline and punishment.  Punishment. So your son has broken the rules; he’s been caught drinking or smoking, maybe a bad report card?  You have to do “something,” he’ll have to be punished. The way to stop a child from misbehaving is to cause some…

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The Quest Project-For Dad!

Dad, Welcome to The Quest Project® My recent inspiration for writing book #2 came from a very welcome change I am seeing in my practice, let me share more. Change Is Very Good Over the last 20 years, I have seen over 2000 boys go through The Quest Project®.  What’s changed?  In the past, the majority of…

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