Feelings: Mad, Sad, Glad and Afraid

These are the “BIG FOUR” feelings!  Regardless of age or gender, these basic four emotions – mad, sad, glad, and afraid – are appropriate for you.  Feeling, expressing and processing your feelings is healthy and highly recommended! Here’s why. Feeling Mad Feeling “mad” or angry about something?  Oh no!  This feeling scares everyone.  I’m amazed…

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Single Parent Mom Raising Son(s)

These days many single parent Moms are doing the best they can raising their adolescent son(s).  They don’t need me telling them how hard it is, but they do need help understanding what a boy goes through as he transitions to a man.  This is especially true when dad is physically or emotionally absent.

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Simply….. “If”

“If” you have been subscribed to my newsletter since 2015, you’ve read this before!  If not, you’re in for a treat.  It’s time for me to share again as it remains one of my favorite poems.  Originally published in 1910 by Rudyard Kipling, it’s still very relevant today.  Enjoy!

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God Made a Farmer

Do you struggle understanding a “rite of passage” and what it represents? Have you contemplated or wondered why so many males have lost their way?  The Industrial Revolution may have given us a more “modern” society, but it took away the crucial time, teaching and wisdom a father passed on to his son…..a “rite of…

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The Quest Project: Design

The Quest Project: Foundation was in place and The Quest Project: Structure fit nicely on the foundation!  The research was nearly complete, and it was time to bring it all together with the design. Design: A Modern-Day Rite of Passage™ Adler-Locus of Control Adler finds people to consist of an internal locus of control and…

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The Quest Project: Structure

With The Quest Project: Foundation in place, it was time for the structure to take shape.  To do that, the research continued and The Quest Project continued to evolve. Structure: Rite of Passage Gestalt-Group Therapy Group therapy is a  technique manifested as a group of people which meet with a pre-established frequency to share experiences,…

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Parents: Time for a “System” Check-Up?

Systems are all around us.  We have stereo systems, navigation systems, computer systems; the human body is a system! Periodically they ALL require a check-up and maintenance. A “system” is: a set of things working together as parts of a mechanism or an interconnecting network

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Raising Boys? Research to Support the Facts

I’ve been providing you a series of blogs that contain information you need to know if you’re raising boys.  Starting with “Economically Undesirable Men”  where I shared the disturbing article claiming unmarried women are finding today’s unmarried men “undesirable.” The facts aren’t an attempt to justify, they are meant as a call to action for…

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Raising Boys? The Facts Don’t Lie

Clayton Lessor

In the blog titled “Economically Undesirable Men” I touched on a subject I think surprised many of my readers.  It’s shocking and potentially unbelievable for many of you, so here are the facts! These facts tell the story:

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Economically Undesirable Men?

An article published in the Journal of Family and Marriage titled “Mismatches in the Marriage Market” published last month has fired me up; and my hope is it fires you up too! The article addresses what it calls a shortage of “economically attractive” unmarried men….according to unmarried women!  Unmarried women find the available men undesirable…

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