Saving Our Sons
The Quest Project-A Testimonial
Sharing a testimonial that is both validating and inspiring for me in the work that I do in The Quest Project®. Saying Thank You After a recent The Quest Project graduation, I received a very special Thank You note from a parent. Here’s what they said: Dr. Clay, We wanted to say THANK YOU for…
Read More“Saving Our Sons” on VoicEd Radio
A recent conversation with Stephen Hurley of VoicEd radio in Canada. Stephen is doing good work bringing important educational topics into the homes of many! Click here to hear our conversation. voicEd Radio Changing the Way You Talk About Education Watch for “Saving Our Sons for Dads-A Fathers Guide to Raising Good Men,” due out early 2018! Be…
Read MoreRaising Sons? Managing Difficult Feelings
The sound of laughter is sweet; we all love to hear a baby giggle, kids and adults laughing! It makes us smile just hearing it. But what happens when your son’s sad or mad? No Laughing Matter I talk and write a lot about feelings, “The Big 4”-mad, sad, glad and afraid, more importantly about how…
Read MoreA Time To Reflect
I’ve never been one to do New Year Resolutions, but I do take time to “reflect” on the goals I set for each new year to measure my accomplishments! Here they are for 2017! Starting from the Top Let’s start with The Quest Project®, after all it’s the #1 program in my practice. I facilitated 62 adolescent…
Read MoreHow to Manage Your Teen’s Rebellion, According to the Pros
Happy to be featured in a recent Thriveworks article! It’s no secret that the teenage years are often characterized by rebellion—there is, however, an ongoing argument about how parents should properly handle this phase. Should they step in or back off? Do they need to crack down on the rules or prove their trust? What’s the most…
Read More“Saving Our Sons for Dads”-Update
What’s better than “Saving Our Sons-A Parent’s Guide to Preparing Boys for Success?” It’s writing my second book “Saving Our Sons for Dads-A Fathers Guide to Raising Good Men!” It was exactly 2 years ago I was finalizing the first SOS. I knew back then that it was extremely important that I get to work on…
Read MoreCore Value-Honesty
You’ve heard the proverb by Benjamin Franklin, “honesty is the best policy” many times I’m sure. This is a reminder, that means to be honest with your kids too! Better Off Not Knowing I think parents convince themselves (at times) that not being completely honest with their children is a way to protect them. In some cases,…
Read MoreAdolescent Son In Trouble? Step Three
Last week in Step #2 I gave some examples of when to seek counseling if you suspect your adolescent son is in trouble. You have tried setting boundaries & limits with him from Step #1, and you’ve enlisted the help of a licensed professional counselor; it didn’t work either. Now it’s time for Step #3. Step…
Read More“Shame”-A Bad Five Letter Word
Your adolescent son shouldn’t feel shame. Sadly he most likely does. How does this happen and why would he feel shame? In a recent interview I was asked this question “why are boys in trouble?” One of many reasons is they carry shame. The interviewer was shocked and went on to ask, “How can a young boy feel shame about something…
Read MoreHomework Versus Video Games
Do you get excuses from your son on why his homework and/or his chores didn’t get done? I have some suggestions that may help. “Just a Minute!” My guess is you hear “I will, just a minute” a lot! Based on my experience with the boys I see, homework and chores are not his priority, video games…
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