Masculinity Is Not The Enemy

We’re hearing a lot these days about masculinity and boys.  Most of what’s being said I disagree with! Masculinity Masculinity is being attacked as a problem, a bad thing, that it’s toxic.  As a facilitator, researcher and male I find this disturbing!  Masculinity isn’t why a boy would walk into a school and begin shooting.  Masculinity…

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FL School Shooter-Was Perfect Storm

It was a tragic sight on the T.V. screen.  Another school shooting; this time 17 innocent lives taken.  When will it stop?  Not until change happens! The Tom Roten Morning Show The link below will take you to my recent interview with Tom.  Why this was a “perfect storm.”  Dr. Clay – FL School Shooter…

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Broken Boys-Signs to Watch For

How can a parent not be worried sick to send their kid off to school; a place trusted for years to keep children safe.  We send our prayers and condolences to the families in Florida that lost loved ones.  I’m reminded of this saying: “Bad things happen to good people.” Help with the Grief In…

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The Quest Project-A Testimonial

Sharing a testimonial that is both validating and inspiring for me in the work that I do in The Quest Project®. Saying Thank You After a recent The Quest Project graduation, I received a very special Thank You note from a parent.  Here’s what they said: Dr. Clay, We wanted to say THANK YOU for…

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“Saving Our Sons” on VoicEd Radio

A recent conversation with Stephen Hurley of VoicEd radio in Canada.  Stephen is doing good work bringing important educational topics into the homes of many! Click here to hear our conversation.  voicEd Radio Changing the Way You Talk About Education   Watch for “Saving Our Sons for Dads-A Fathers Guide to Raising Good Men,” due out early 2018!  Be…

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Raising Sons? Managing Difficult Feelings

The sound of laughter is sweet; we all love to hear a baby giggle, kids and adults laughing!  It makes us smile just hearing it.  But what happens when your son’s sad or mad? No Laughing Matter I talk and write a lot about feelings, “The Big 4”-mad, sad, glad and afraid,  more importantly about how…

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A Time To Reflect

I’ve never been one to do New Year Resolutions, but I do take time to “reflect” on the goals I set for each new year to measure my accomplishments! Here they are for 2017! Starting from the Top Let’s start with The Quest Project®, after all it’s the #1 program in my practice. I facilitated 62 adolescent…

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How to Manage Your Teen’s Rebellion, According to the Pros

Happy to be featured in a recent Thriveworks article! It’s no secret that the teenage years are often characterized by rebellion—there is, however, an ongoing argument about how parents should properly handle this phase. Should they step in or back off? Do they need to crack down on the rules or prove their trust? What’s the most…

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“Saving Our Sons for Dads”-Update

What’s better than “Saving Our Sons-A Parent’s Guide to Preparing Boys for Success?”  It’s writing my second book “Saving Our Sons for Dads-A Fathers Guide to Raising Good Men!”  It was exactly 2 years ago I was finalizing the first SOS.  I knew back then that it was extremely important that I get to work on…

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Core Value-Honesty

You’ve heard the proverb by Benjamin Franklin, “honesty is the best policy” many times I’m sure.  This is a reminder, that means to be honest with your kids too! Better Off Not Knowing I think parents convince themselves (at times) that not being completely honest with their children is a way to protect them.  In some cases,…

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