Saving Our Sons
How to Manage Your Teen’s Rebellion, According to the Pros
Happy to be featured in a recent Thriveworks article! It’s no secret that the teenage years are often characterized by rebellion—there is, however, an ongoing argument about how parents should properly handle this phase. Should they step in or back off? Do they need to crack down on the rules or prove their trust? What’s the most…
Read More“Saving Our Sons for Dads”-Update
What’s better than “Saving Our Sons-A Parent’s Guide to Preparing Boys for Success?” It’s writing my second book “Saving Our Sons for Dads-A Fathers Guide to Raising Good Men!” It was exactly 2 years ago I was finalizing the first SOS. I knew back then that it was extremely important that I get to work on…
Read MoreCore Value-Honesty
You’ve heard the proverb by Benjamin Franklin, “honesty is the best policy” many times I’m sure. This is a reminder, that means to be honest with your kids too! Better Off Not Knowing I think parents convince themselves (at times) that not being completely honest with their children is a way to protect them. In some cases,…
Read MoreAdolescent Son In Trouble? Step Three
Last week in Step #2 I gave some examples of when to seek counseling if you suspect your adolescent son is in trouble. You have tried setting boundaries & limits with him from Step #1, and you’ve enlisted the help of a licensed professional counselor; it didn’t work either. Now it’s time for Step #3. Step…
Read More“Shame”-A Bad Five Letter Word
Your adolescent son shouldn’t feel shame. Sadly he most likely does. How does this happen and why would he feel shame? In a recent interview I was asked this question “why are boys in trouble?” One of many reasons is they carry shame. The interviewer was shocked and went on to ask, “How can a young boy feel shame about something…
Read MoreHomework Versus Video Games
Do you get excuses from your son on why his homework and/or his chores didn’t get done? I have some suggestions that may help. “Just a Minute!” My guess is you hear “I will, just a minute” a lot! Based on my experience with the boys I see, homework and chores are not his priority, video games…
Read MoreSharing My Message on The McGraw Show
It was an honor to be a guest on The McGraw Show! I want to share the interview with all of you. KTRS “The Big 550” McGraw Millhaven and Kelly Jackson, both Emmy nominated journalists, are some of St. Louis finest radio personalities. I was honored to be invited to talk about “Saving Our Sons-A Parent’s Guide…
Read MoreParenting Boys? The 5 Signs of Trouble
Don’t ignore the warning signs, you may think your son is just going through a phase, but that’s not always the case. Your son could be in trouble. It may be typical angst; here’s the difference. Over the past 20 years I have helped countless troubled teens make the transition from boyhood to adult life with my program, The Quest Project. The Warning Signs Boys are…
Read MoreParenting Teens? Heroin Spares No One
The stories are disturbing; teens addicted to and dying from heroin. It’s happening right under our nose, in our own backyard, rich and poor communities. It is pervasive, from schools to homes to the streets and parks. The numbers are staggering. But they don’t show the complete picture. “My Son Wouldn’t Do Drugs” That’s the most common response…
Read MoreWalking Tall-A Personal Journey
The Journey of a Thousand Miles Please allow me to share my excitement and experience. I just walked for my PhD! An accomplishment that I’ve been working toward my entire life. Obstacles were abundant, but when you set a goal you just keep going until you achieve it. I did it and it feels amazing! I am officially…
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