Parenting Tip: Dad This One’s for You

I’ve devoted this blog to the fathers out there who are committed to being the best DAD they can be. Typically, when I refer to dad in my blogs, I emphasize and stress the importance of a “responsible, healthy and safe dad,” or in the absence of dad a “responsible, healthy and safe mentor” like grandpa, uncle or…

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Good News! The Quest Project Is Coming To You

What happens when requests begin to flow in asking for The Quest Project® in other cities and towns?  We deliver!  I am excited to present:  The Quest Project Weekend Intensive Program  as an option for our many followers who have reached out and asked: “how can we get this program in our area?”

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Parenting Sons: 5 Things You Need To Know About Peer Pressure

  Peer Pressure and Healthy Male Mentor As your adolescent boy grows and matures it is increasingly important that he has a strong relationship with dad; if dad is healthy and safe.  If that is not the case, a healthy male mentor (grandpa, uncle, stepdad, coach).   You hear me say this often, I have dads tell me they’re doing…

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Raising Sons? Does He Struggle With Anxiety?

  As a Licensed Professional Counselor(LPC), I see a fair number of clients with anxiety.  Maybe they lost a job or their marriage is failing.  Recently I am seeing adolescent boys on a regular basis struggling with anxiety. What Is Anxiety? In general, anxiety is a term used for nervousness, fear, apprehension and worry.  Chronic anxiety can lead to, or…

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Parenting Tip: Conflict Resolution Examples

Conflict Resolution: Conversation Examples I chose two of the conflicts I see frequently between an adolescent boy and his parent.  Conflict Resolution Tool State the facts: Who, What, When and Where Make a judgment:  A judgment is an “I think you or me statement” about self and about other person State feeling:  The Big Four-mad, sad,…

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Parenting Tip: How to Resolve Conflict

Parenting & Conflict Conflict is a part of life.  I know people who thoroughly enjoy conflict and others who avoid it at all costs.  One of the cornerstones I cover with adolescent boys and their parents is “conflict resolution.”  By utilizing my process the family is able to communicate more effectively and peacefully. You-You-You One of…

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Therapy and Group Work: The Importance of a Qualified Facilitator

A Look Behind the Scenes One thing I have not shared is I’m a facilitator of The Quest Project®.  I am in the “trenches” with the boys that come to see me.  I do this work myself, I’m good at it.  I know how to quickly uncover and get to the wound an adolescent boy carries.  Since 2000…

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Raising Sons: Integrity, Instilling as a Core Value

With integrity, you have nothing to fear, since you have nothing to hide. With integrity, you will do the right thing, so you will have no guilt.   Zig Ziglar   I came across this quote recently.  I couldn’t get the word “integrity” off of my mind, I ultimately came across this Forbes’ article.  It’s a…

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Raising Sons? Meet Clayton Lessor

Would you like to know who I am and why I do this work?  A Sad Little Boy My childhood in quiet suburban South City was anything but quiet.  I lived in fear of my dad.  I spent most of my time at school tired and scared because I’d been awake most of the night before scared…

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