Proud Veteran-USAF

At 18 years of age, just out of high school, me and my buddy Jay enlisted in the United States Air Force.  It was an easy decision for me; I was lost with no direction in my life.  Jay and I had a lot of adventures together, and this would prove to be the biggest and…

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Proud Patriot!

I am a proud Patriot of this country.  An important part of my story that brings me to where I am today, and why I do the work I do to help boys is a result of my time in the United States Air Force. It Starts Like This Enlisting in the United States Air…

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The Quest Project: Foundation

When you build something you always start with the foundation; your foundation must be strong and built to stand the test of time!  Over the next few weeks you’ll learn how the foundation of The Quest Project was “built!” The Quest Project®-A Modern Day Rite of Passage™ program was designed to replicate the teachings and…

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Ninth of 9 Reasons ALL Boys Need A Rite-of-Passage

I detailed relationships and the value system last week.  For the ninth and final reason ALL boys need a rite-of-passage, I dedicate the entire blog to life mission.  It’s a very important step; in my experience most of the young men I facilitate in The Quest Project® have not considered or thought about their life mission. I get it!  As a young man…

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The Quest Project-A Young Man’s Testimony

There is no better compliment or greater satisfaction than receiving a testimonial from one of my clients.  Typically I hear from a parent, in this case, it comes from a 16-year-old young man! Testimonial The first time I stepped into Dr. Lessor’s office I had a lot of thoughts on my mind. The relationship between…

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The Quest Project® Manifesto

As a 20+ year retired Captain of the United States Air Force it goes without saying I love my country and am proud to be an American! Where else do you have the opportunity to be who you want to be, achieve your goals and debate your beliefs through freedom of speech. My observation, we…

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Rite-of-Passage & Initiation (Part One of Two)

There is a much-needed focus today by both broadcast and print media on males and masculinity; you can virtually find a program or article on the subject at any given moment.  What I don’t see or hear is something I know very well through years of research, data and facilitation. Boys need a rite-of-passage and initiation…

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Parents How’s the “Exit Plan” Going?

Have you started your son’s exit plan? First, clearly this is not about “kicking your son out of the house” into a scary world without preparation.  It is exactly the opposite-it is responsible parenting, preparing him to be a responsible, independent and healthy adult.  Exit Plans Are Necessary  I often hear from parents that their adult son is…

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Parenting Boys? Managing Aggressive Behavior

It’s a good time to talk about “aggressiveness, assertiveness and aggressive behavior!”  My recent blog on healthy masculinity was to caution getting caught up in the recent frenzy that masculinity was the “cause” for bad behavior. Masculinity and guns don’t go hand in hand; masculinity and irrational behavior don’t either!  But what do you do when your son displays aggressiveness and/or…

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Adolescent Son In Trouble? Step Three

Last week in Step #2 I gave some examples of when to seek counseling if you suspect your adolescent son is in trouble.  You have tried setting boundaries & limits with him from Step #1, and you’ve enlisted the help of a licensed professional counselor; it didn’t work either.  Now it’s time for Step #3. Step…

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