Parents How’s the “Exit Plan” Going?

Have you started your son’s exit plan? First, clearly this is not about “kicking your son out of the house” into a scary world without preparation.  It is exactly the opposite-it is responsible parenting, preparing him to be a responsible, independent and healthy adult.  Exit Plans Are Necessary  I often hear from parents that their adult son is…

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Raising Sons? The Need For Healthy Masculinity

Masculinity continues to be debated in the media as “bad” and “toxic” I’m motivated to bring some alarming facts to your attention.   Perp’s in Sheep’s Clothing If you’re watching the news you are hearing weekly sometimes daily of arrests of female teachers, female coaches perpetrating adolescent boys.  It’s becoming epidemic, CBS news reports there are more than…

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Masculinity Is Not The Enemy

We’re hearing a lot these days about masculinity and boys.  Most of what’s being said I disagree with! Masculinity Masculinity is being attacked as a problem, a bad thing, that it’s toxic.  As a facilitator, researcher and male I find this disturbing!  Masculinity isn’t why a boy would walk into a school and begin shooting.  Masculinity…

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The Quest Project-A Testimonial

Sharing a testimonial that is both validating and inspiring for me in the work that I do in The Quest Project®. Saying Thank You After a recent The Quest Project graduation, I received a very special Thank You note from a parent.  Here’s what they said: Dr. Clay, We wanted to say THANK YOU for…

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“Saving Our Sons” on VoicEd Radio

A recent conversation with Stephen Hurley of VoicEd radio in Canada.  Stephen is doing good work bringing important educational topics into the homes of many! Click here to hear our conversation.  voicEd Radio Changing the Way You Talk About Education   Watch for “Saving Our Sons for Dads-A Fathers Guide to Raising Good Men,” due out early 2018!  Be…

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A Time To Reflect

I’ve never been one to do New Year Resolutions, but I do take time to “reflect” on the goals I set for each new year to measure my accomplishments! Here they are for 2017! Starting from the Top Let’s start with The Quest Project®, after all it’s the #1 program in my practice. I facilitated 62 adolescent…

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Helping Sons on The Tom Roten Morning Show

Hope you enjoy this interview with Tom Roten of The Tom Roten Morning Show on WVHU!  Tom’s a good man and I appreciate him helping me to spread the word!   “     Help your son grow into the man he’s meant to be! | The Tom Roten Morning Show | NewsRadio 800 WVHU…

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“Saving Our Sons for Dads”-Update

What’s better than “Saving Our Sons-A Parent’s Guide to Preparing Boys for Success?”  It’s writing my second book “Saving Our Sons for Dads-A Fathers Guide to Raising Good Men!”  It was exactly 2 years ago I was finalizing the first SOS.  I knew back then that it was extremely important that I get to work on…

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Adolescent Son In Trouble? Final Step

Over the past 3 weeks I’ve laid out the steps to take if you suspect trouble with your adolescent son.  Unfortunately, when the first three steps (boundaries & limits, counseling and intensive outpatient) have failed it’s time to move to the final step.  The Final Step=Intensive Inpatient If you’ve reached this step with your adolescent son it’s…

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Adolescent Son In Trouble? Step Two

Last week in Step #1 we covered the importance of setting healthy boundaries & limits in conjunction with natural consequences.  Many times, parents can avoid trouble with their adolescent son by starting there. When that doesn’t work, move to Step #2: Step #2=Seek Counseling Many boys don’t know how to deal with the pain that comes…

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