Modern Day Rite Of Passage

Rite of Passage? I’m often asked what is a “rite of passage?”  It’s a term that most people equate with times past.  We have forgotten the importance of rite of passage with not only our boys, but girls too. Look Out Things Are Changing Rite of passage is a transition, and in it’s simplest terms means “changing from a boy…

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Keeping It Real

Today as I began to write I was keenly aware I was sad.  What was I sad about?  It was exactly 2 years ago today that my father-in-law died, and I was sad.  That led me to my inspiration for this blog – grief and grieving. By Definition There are many definitions of grief, the one I…

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What Has Happened To Guys?

I was watching the movie “Intern” the other night with Ann Hathaway and Robert De Niro.  To be honest I prefer a good science fiction or action movie.  Once in a while my wife needs a break so we watch a love story or comedy.  I really liked this movie, aside from Ann Hathaway crying…

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When Is Abandonment Good?

The issue of abandonment is high with troubled teenage boys. Naturally, when I come across a title on an article that reads “What It Really Means When a Father Abandons His Children,” I’m going to read it! Gone Husband – Abandonment This Mom was talking about how her husband of eight years said he was…

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My Son Is So Angry!

We’ve all been raised to believe anger is a bad emotion.  We don’t like when someone is angry; and especially when it is coming from our adolescent son. Anger-It’s Real Life I was raised by a very angry father (a rager).  The issue for me in my life wasn’t that he was angry, it was…

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The Dog Ate My Homework

Are you tired of the excuses from your teenage son on why the homework didn’t get done? A Piece Of Advice I’m going to “kill two birds with one stone” for you.  Based on my experience with the boys I see,  homework isn’t his priority, video games are.  And based on the parents I work with,…

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When A Boy Becomes a Man

Think about this: When a girl transitions to a woman the “signs” are typically obvious and unmistakable.  However, when a young boy begins to transition to a man it can sneak up on you; the signs aren’t as obvious.  You know it’s going to happen, but what do you look for?

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Peer Pressure – My Son is Acting Out, What Should I Do?

Peer pressure by definition is “social pressure by members of one’s peer group to take a certain action, adopt certain values, or otherwise conform in order to be accepted.” The Importance Of Adolescence One of the most critical times in a young boys life is adolescence.  If you’ve been following me,  you have heard me say how…

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Taking My Life Back

Continuing the story of my life and how my experiences led me to become a counselor by taking my life back. This Isn’t What I Need Initially, my therapy was like talking to a good friend.  In fact, I honestly didn’t think it was for me.  I saw two different female counselors.  Basically, both assured me “everything…

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