Forgiveness Without Reconciliation

    It’s the question that stops every man in his tracks. I’ve heard it hundreds of times—in therapy sessions, in men’s groups, in quiet conversations after workshops. The words change, but the question doesn’t: Does healing mean I have to let my father back in and forgive him?  The answer is no. And that…

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Parents: Meet the “New Nanny”

Are you busy raising your kids? If so, you have responsibilities that include entertaining, educating, and guiding!  Likely you’ve provided your kids a phone (all the other kids have one) and allowed this phone, who I refer to as “the nanny,” to replace many of the roles a parent is responsible for. The phone has…

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Parents Beware-New Nanny!

We’re all busy raising our kids; responsibilities include entertaining, educating, and guiding.  Likely they have a phone and you’ve allowed the phone (who I refer to as the new nanny) to replace many of the roles a parent is responsible for. It’s a new reliable, relatively inexpensive nanny.  Am I right?   

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Happy Father’s Day!

On this special day, Father’s Day, I hope all the fathers out there remember they are the “conductors of the family train!”  If you follow me, you know that another one of my favorite poems is by Rudyard Kipling “If.”  My dear friend and United States Air Force buddy sent me this poem.  Please enjoy!

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Be a Mentor-Become a Mentor

In honor of National Mentoring Month I would like to share my experience as a mentor to young men, ages 11-16. We work during the summer months cultivating and sharing the bounty of a vegetable garden with our local food pantry.

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Grieving a Loss

The sudden loss of a loved one, relative, friend, co-worker, or classmate can be overwhelming.  It can put us in a state of shock, disbelief and feeling numb all over.

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Parenting Tip: Focus on Needs

If I ask you “what do you want” what’s the first thing that comes to mind?  Now, take a minute and answer this question “do you need it?”  Likely you don’t, it’s something you “want” but you don’t necessarily “need” it.  Ultimately, we all NEED these 4 things:

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Feeling Your Feelings

Feelings!  These are the “big four” and regardless of age, ethnicity, or gender, these basic four feelings – mad, sad, glad, and afraid – are appropriate for you.  We need to feel our feelings, express our feelings and process those feelings, it’s healthy! Here’s why.

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