Posts Tagged ‘parenting tips’
Dr. Clay on KTVI-Fox 2
In a recent interview on Fox 2 morning news I was asked about “Millennials and Perfectionism.” Here’s a link if you missed it. http://fox2now.com/2018/01/29/local-therapist-talks-about-how-perfectionism-affects-millennials/ A new study in the Psychological Bulletin says young people are more likely than any other generation to feel the pressure to be perfect. As a therapist who works extensively with adolescents, families and…
Read MoreParents How’s the “Exit Plan” Going?
Have you started your son’s exit plan? First, clearly this is not about “kicking your son out of the house” into a scary world without preparation. It is exactly the opposite-it is responsible parenting, preparing him to be a responsible, independent and healthy adult. Exit Plans Are Necessary I often hear from parents that their adult son is…
Read MoreRaising Sons? The Need For Healthy Masculinity
Masculinity continues to be debated in the media as “bad” and “toxic” I’m motivated to bring some alarming facts to your attention. Perp’s in Sheep’s Clothing If you’re watching the news you are hearing weekly sometimes daily of arrests of female teachers, female coaches perpetrating adolescent boys. It’s becoming epidemic, CBS news reports there are more than…
Read MoreMasculinity Is Not The Enemy
We’re hearing a lot these days about masculinity and boys. Most of what’s being said I disagree with! Masculinity Masculinity is being attacked as a problem, a bad thing, that it’s toxic. As a facilitator, researcher and male I find this disturbing! Masculinity isn’t why a boy would walk into a school and begin shooting. Masculinity…
Read MoreThe Quest Project-A Testimonial
Sharing a testimonial that is both validating and inspiring for me in the work that I do in The Quest Project®. Saying Thank You After a recent The Quest Project graduation, I received a very special Thank You note from a parent. Here’s what they said: Dr. Clay, We wanted to say THANK YOU for…
Read More“Saving Our Sons” on VoicEd Radio
A recent conversation with Stephen Hurley of VoicEd radio in Canada. Stephen is doing good work bringing important educational topics into the homes of many! Click here to hear our conversation. voicEd Radio Changing the Way You Talk About Education Watch for “Saving Our Sons for Dads-A Fathers Guide to Raising Good Men,” due out early 2018! Be…
Read MoreRaising Sons? Managing Difficult Feelings
The sound of laughter is sweet; we all love to hear a baby giggle, kids and adults laughing! It makes us smile just hearing it. But what happens when your son’s sad or mad? No Laughing Matter I talk and write a lot about feelings, “The Big 4”-mad, sad, glad and afraid, more importantly about how…
Read MoreRaising Sons? Character Building Blocks
If you followed my series of “steps” to take when dealing with an adolescent son who is in trouble you learned step by step what to do. What is sometimes missed is that The Quest Project® isn’t just for troubled or at-risk boys. Helping Build Character With Every Boy The Quest Project is designed to help ALL ADOLESCENT BOYS! …
Read MoreHow to Manage Your Teen’s Rebellion, According to the Pros
Happy to be featured in a recent Thriveworks article! It’s no secret that the teenage years are often characterized by rebellion—there is, however, an ongoing argument about how parents should properly handle this phase. Should they step in or back off? Do they need to crack down on the rules or prove their trust? What’s the most…
Read MoreCore Value-Honesty
You’ve heard the proverb by Benjamin Franklin, “honesty is the best policy” many times I’m sure. This is a reminder, that means to be honest with your kids too! Better Off Not Knowing I think parents convince themselves (at times) that not being completely honest with their children is a way to protect them. In some cases,…
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