Raising Boys? The Facts Don’t Lie

Clayton Lessor

In the blog titled “Economically Undesirable Men” I touched on a subject I think surprised many of my readers.  It’s shocking and potentially unbelievable for many of you, so here are the facts! These facts tell the story:

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Economically Undesirable Men?

An article published in the Journal of Family and Marriage titled “Mismatches in the Marriage Market” published last month has fired me up; and my hope is it fires you up too! The article addresses what it calls a shortage of “economically attractive” unmarried men….according to unmarried women!  Unmarried women find the available men undesirable…

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7 Warning Signs of Suicide

It’s hard to find a family that hasn’t been affected by suicide.  Suicide is the 10th-leading cause of death in the United States. You hear about it on the news, or from a friend or co-worker who’s dealing with the pain of losing a loved one. Personally and Professionally As a therapist I’m trained to…

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Parenting: When to Cope-When to Heal

Lately the new “buzz word” in my field is teaching children “coping skills.”  Coping by definition: Coping means to invest one’s own conscious effort, to solve personal and interpersonal problems, in order to try to master, minimize or tolerate stress and conflict. I see it everywhere and here I’ll explain the difference in coping and…

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Parenting Boys: 4 Tips to Teach Empathy

As an avid researcher, when I detect a shift or change in adolescent behavior, I dig in with the goal of determining the cause.  Naturally as the facilitator of The Quest Project-A Modern Day Rite-of-Passage program for adolescent boys my observations are “real time and accurate!”

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Raising Boys?

Admittedly I was a bit apprehensive allowing a reporter to “sit in” a Quest Project group.  However Jeanette Cooperman of St. Louis Magazine has done a truly professional article about what she experienced!  I hope you enjoy it. “In Search of Manhood” A St. Louis therapist says we’re making it harder and harder for boys…

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Parenting Tip: Want vs Need

Each week I contemplate the subject matter (the theme) that I feel is the most relevant and helpful to the parents reading my blogs.  This is a sensitive subject; it’s one that I see parents struggle with.  Parents of children at any/all ages.

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Cheers To Mom!

  This is dedicated to all the Mom’s out there who are raising son(s)! Thank You Mom If you’re a single Mom, you don’t need me to tell you how hard it is raising kids alone.  Many mom’s today are filling the role of dad too.  They’re likely working a full-time job, taking care of…

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Is Your Son in Trouble? Dr. Clay Offers Insight

Is your son in trouble?  If you missed my recent interview with John Pertzborn on Fox 2, you’re in luck;  I’ve provided it here!  We discuss what boys need, absent fathers, The Quest Project, and what the Coalition for a White House Council on Men and Boys is hoping to accomplish.

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Boys Here on Planet Earth

I’m sure you remember a few years ago the book that said men and women are from different planets!  An interesting spin on the fact that men and women, boys and girls are “wired” very differently.  Keep this in mind as I share a recent situation. One of the families I’m working with was getting…

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