#1 Parenting Tip: Be an Effective Team!

Did you see the movie “Oblivion?”  It came out in 2013 and starred Tom Cruise.  “Jack” and his partner were tasked with “post-apocalyptic” missions; everyday they were asked to answer this question from headquarters “are you still an effective team?” Teamwork Makes the Dream Work! When I counsel couples one of the exercises we go…

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Raising Boys? Research to Support the Facts

I’ve been providing you a series of blogs that contain information you need to know if you’re raising boys.  Starting with “Economically Undesirable Men”  where I shared the disturbing article claiming unmarried women are finding today’s unmarried men “undesirable.” The facts aren’t an attempt to justify, they are meant as a call to action for…

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Raising Boys? The Facts Don’t Lie

Clayton Lessor

In the blog titled “Economically Undesirable Men” I touched on a subject I think surprised many of my readers.  It’s shocking and potentially unbelievable for many of you, so here are the facts! These facts tell the story:

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Economically Undesirable Men?

An article published in the Journal of Family and Marriage titled “Mismatches in the Marriage Market” published last month has fired me up; and my hope is it fires you up too! The article addresses what it calls a shortage of “economically attractive” unmarried men….according to unmarried women!  Unmarried women find the available men undesirable…

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7 Warning Signs of Suicide

It’s hard to find a family that hasn’t been affected by suicide.  Suicide is the 10th-leading cause of death in the United States. You hear about it on the news, or from a friend or co-worker who’s dealing with the pain of losing a loved one. Personally and Professionally As a therapist I’m trained to…

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Parenting: When to Cope-When to Heal

Lately the new “buzz word” in my field is teaching children “coping skills.”  Coping by definition: Coping means to invest one’s own conscious effort, to solve personal and interpersonal problems, in order to try to master, minimize or tolerate stress and conflict. I see it everywhere and here I’ll explain the difference in coping and…

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Parenting Boys: 4 Tips to Teach Empathy

As an avid researcher, when I detect a shift or change in adolescent behavior, I dig in with the goal of determining the cause.  Naturally as the facilitator of The Quest Project-A Modern Day Rite-of-Passage program for adolescent boys my observations are “real time and accurate!”

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Raising Boys?

Admittedly I was a bit apprehensive allowing a reporter to “sit in” a Quest Project group.  However Jeanette Cooperman of St. Louis Magazine has done a truly professional article about what she experienced!  I hope you enjoy it. “In Search of Manhood” A St. Louis therapist says we’re making it harder and harder for boys…

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Parenting Tip: Want vs Need

Each week I contemplate the subject matter (the theme) that I feel is the most relevant and helpful to the parents reading my blogs.  This is a sensitive subject; it’s one that I see parents struggle with.  Parents of children at any/all ages.

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Cheers To Mom!

  This is dedicated to all the Mom’s out there who are raising son(s)! Thank You Mom If you’re a single Mom, you don’t need me to tell you how hard it is raising kids alone.  Many mom’s today are filling the role of dad too.  They’re likely working a full-time job, taking care of…

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