Saving Our Adolescent Sons

Art Holiday has a rich history as one of St. Louis finest reporters.  When he asked to do a story on The Quest Project, I was honored.  However, I first needed permission from both the boys and their parents; once we all agreed I humbly accepted and invited him to group!

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News and Updates!

Periodically I like to give you news and updates; a glimpse into what’s going on and what I’m up to!  It’s a very exciting time for The Quest Project® and me personally.  I’ll start with the updates. What’s Been Going On? We officially launched my second book “Generation of Men”-How to raise your son to…

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Cheers To Mom!

  This is dedicated to all the Mom’s out there who are raising son(s)! Thank You Mom If you’re a single Mom, you don’t need me to tell you how hard it is raising kids alone.  Many mom’s today are filling the role of dad too.  They’re likely working a full-time job, taking care of…

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Is Your Son in Trouble? Dr. Clay Offers Insight

Is your son in trouble?  If you missed my recent interview with John Pertzborn on Fox 2, you’re in luck;  I’ve provided it here!  We discuss what boys need, absent fathers, The Quest Project, and what the Coalition for a White House Council on Men and Boys is hoping to accomplish.

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Boys Here on Planet Earth

I’m sure you remember a few years ago the book that said men and women are from different planets!  An interesting spin on the fact that men and women, boys and girls are “wired” very differently.  Keep this in mind as I share a recent situation. One of the families I’m working with was getting…

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Labels Are for Packages

This is an extremely crucial time for our adolescent boys.  And I’ll say it again “our boys are in trouble!” It’s time to be very careful and diligent as parents to refuse to allow your sons to be labeled. Headed in the Wrong Direction I know that if we, as a society, continue this trajectory–the…

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Counseling for Boys-Today’s Challenges

I wrote about the challenge of “parenting boys today;” here’s some insight into the challenges we face as counselors you may find helpful as well. I Don’t Need Counseling! The first most obvious hurdle to overcome is “in general” males aren’t comfortable with counseling!  That goes for the young adolescent boy all the way to the…

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Giving Your Son Permission to Cry

Has anyone ever said to you “maybe you just need a good cry?”  In the therapy field we call those “cleansing tears!”  Bottom line is it’s okay to cry; and frankly, it can be very good for you especially when you’re grieving.  And guess what, kids feel grief and need to grieve too! The Grief…

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The Father-Son Relationship

Every now and then in my program, The Quest Project, a boy will say something that makes what I do the best job in the world! Likely if you read my newsletters you know I talk a lot about the Industrial Revolution and how it drastically changed families.  Particularly the relationships between father and son.

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