The Best Dad

I’d like to share the story of a young man and his dad. This young man and his family are actually one of the Case Studies in my forthcoming book “Saving Our Sons” A Parent’s Guide to Preparing Boys for Success. Meet Dylan “Dylan” was full of anger the first time we met. According to…

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Keeping It Real

Today as I began to write I was keenly aware I was sad.  What was I sad about?  It was exactly 2 years ago today that my father-in-law died, and I was sad.  That led me to my inspiration for this blog – grief and grieving. By Definition There are many definitions of grief, the one I…

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Remember Sandy Hook?

Remember Sandy Hook? Why now you ask do I bring up Sandy Hook?  Well as many of you know I am coming to the end of my PhD studies; as a matter of fact I’m finishing my last two courses as I write this.  A recent assignment was to discuss the horrible events that took place…

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What Has Happened To Guys?

I was watching the movie “Intern” the other night with Ann Hathaway and Robert De Niro.  To be honest I prefer a good science fiction or action movie.  Once in a while my wife needs a break so we watch a love story or comedy.  I really liked this movie, aside from Ann Hathaway crying…

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Rudyard Kipling’s “If–” – Inspiration for Your Son

A couple of years ago my wife gave me a new briefcase for my birthday.  It’s a great briefcase; I think I like it because it looks worn and rugged.  She told me it was called “the Kipling bag.”  As I was unpacking it and admiring the cool details I noticed tucked in one of…

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The Quest Project – An Overview

I’ve talked a lot about The Quest Project®, how it got its start, and some of the issues adolescent boys are dealing with when they come to me.  I thought it would be a good idea to give you an overview of the program itself. This Is How It Begins When a parent reaches out for my help, we start by…

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How Can My Son Be Depressed?

It seems hard to imagine.  Most parents can’t believe their son could possibly be depressed.  What in the world does he have to be depressed about? The “Dad Wound” Of the more than 1,800 boys who have gone through my program, the majority were in some stage of depression.  How can that be, you ask? 

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Affluenza Teen – The Treatment Plan I Would Prescribe

The headline read:  “Rich, Privileged and Unaccountable.”  Honestly, that pretty much sums it up. I’m commenting on this case for a couple of reasons.  First, because I deal with boys at this age in my practice daily.  And secondly, because this is a perfect example of “what not to do” as a parent.  The term “affluenza” is…

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Is Your Teenager Being Bullied?

Believe it or not, this is one of the most heartbreaking issues I see – teenagers being bullied.  What constitutes such abuse…. The Big Six When I thought about this series of articles I decided to focus on the “biggies.”  In doing so, I thought about the issues I deal with the most in The…

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My Son Is So Angry!

We’ve all been raised to believe anger is a bad emotion.  We don’t like when someone is angry; and especially when it is coming from our adolescent son. Anger-It’s Real Life I was raised by a very angry father (a rager).  The issue for me in my life wasn’t that he was angry, it was…

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