When I begin working with a family; usually regarding their son, during an initial assessment I can discern quickly if it’s a “shame based” family. Shame based families are about controlling behavior to conform (i.e. shame more to get behavior we want). Whether intentional or unintentional it’s fundamental that we clean that up first. Here’s why….
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The “new normal” and its effect on kids is beginning to show very serious concern. Red flags are popping up all over the United States; stories of teen suicide and depression are heartbreaking. As a parent, in addition to the many other obligations you have, it’s time to pay close attention to signs of depression, […]
Teaching your son accountability is as important as teaching honesty, empathy and integrity. Often accountability gets overlooked as a core value; when in fact it’s one of the most important!
Periodically I am moved by a poem or quote that I have read or received. If you follow me, you know that one of those poems is by Rudyard Kipling “If.” Recently one of my dear friends, my United States Air Force buddy sent me this.
Season’s Greetings and Happy Holidays! The Quest Project® is and always has been a labor of love, this year was filled with unexpected challenges and obstacles. Combined with your continued dedication and support, and my mission “to create healthy lifestyles by teaching, facilitating, research, writing and example we are helping our boys grow into healthy, […]
There is no better compliment or greater satisfaction than receiving a testimonial from one of my past clients. Periodically I will hear from a parent, in this case, it comes from a young man who is in his second year of a PhD program at Harvard!
Let me introduce you to “Phoney” the new reliable, relatively inexpensive nanny. Its very busy these days; responsibilities include entertaining, and in some cases educating your son. Not my son, what’s he talking about you ask? Does your son have a phone? If the answer is “yes,” you’ve likely allowed the phone (who I refer […]
It’s not easy raising boys 11-13 and 14-16 years old. However young men in the 17-19 age group are unique and I’ll tell you why. They are (or should be) young adults at this point. That doesn’t mean you stop parenting but more importantly, he needs your help “preparing for” critical next steps. The most […]
In honor of National Mentor Day on October 27, 2020 I would like to share my experience as a mentor to young men, ages 11-16 who work every Saturday during the summer months in a garden. About the “Patch” The name of the garden is “Charity Patch.” Seven years ago, my wife and I set […]
Are you raising a young man 14 to 16-years-old and you are concerned because he’s pulling away from you (mom and/or dad)? He suddenly thinks he knows everything, and you know nothing! Here are some helpful tips: