Saving Our Sons
The Love of Mom!
Being a mom can be the most rewarding, frustrating, and fantastic role of a lifetime! Most every mom I’ve met is doing the best they can raising their adolescent son(s). They don’t need me telling them how hard it is, but they do need help understanding what a boy goes through as he transitions to…
Read MoreMost Common Types of “Absent Dad”
Do you know a dad who is physically present, but absent? Dad doesn’t have to live apart from his son to be absent. Many families may appear to be “intact” with dad acting as the head of household when in fact, his mind and his energy are somewhere else.
Read MoreParenting Boys? This is Must Read!
This is an extremely crucial time for our adolescent boys. Let me repeat, “our boys are in trouble!” As parents, it’s time to be very careful and diligent; refuse to allow your sons to be labeled.
Read MoreFounder of The Quest Project®-Dr. Clay
Choosing a counselor and/or a program for your son is an important step. Both parent and son need to establish a connection with the therapist. It is essential to the work; so, take your time and be confident in your selection process.
Read MoreParenting Sons? You Need a “Trouble Meter!”
Parenting adolescent boys is challenging. My guess is you have at some point said this “my son is drawn to trouble like a magnet!” Am I right? Here’s an exercise you may find helpful.
Read MoreParent(s)-Is Your Family “Shame Based?”
When I begin working with a family; usually regarding their son, during an initial assessment I can discern quickly if it’s a “shame based” family. Shame based families are about controlling behavior to conform (i.e. shame more to get behavior we want). Whether intentional or unintentional it’s fundamental that we clean that up first. Here’s why….
Read MoreParenting Alert! New Normal=New Concerns
The “new normal” and its effect on kids is beginning to show very serious concern. Red flags are popping up all over the United States; stories of teen suicide and depression are heartbreaking. As a parent, in addition to the many other obligations you have, it’s time to pay close attention to signs of depression,…
Read MoreTeach Your Son Accountability
Teaching your son accountability is as important as teaching honesty, empathy and integrity. Often accountability gets overlooked as a core value; when in fact it’s one of the most important!
Read More“The Train of Life”
Periodically I am moved by a poem or quote that I have read or received. If you follow me, you know that one of those poems is by Rudyard Kipling “If.” Recently one of my dear friends, my United States Air Force buddy sent me this.
Read MoreSeasons Greetings from The Quest Project®
Season’s Greetings and Happy Holidays! The Quest Project® is and always has been a labor of love, this year was filled with unexpected challenges and obstacles. Combined with your continued dedication and support, and my mission “to create healthy lifestyles by teaching, facilitating, research, writing and example we are helping our boys grow into healthy,…
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