The Quest Project
Happy Birthday America!
Celebrating 4th of July for me is a special time. As a 20+ year retired Captain of the United States Air Force it goes without saying, I love my country and I am proud to be an American; at my house we fly the American flag high!
Read MoreA Father’s Day Message
Fathers Day is a time of reflection for some of us. For all you new dads it’s a special day of celebration. And for some dads it’s a wake up call, because you haven’t been present. I always wanted to write a song, if I did it would sound like this! Some of you will…
Read MoreParenting: Heard of PAS?
Familiar with the term Parent Alienation Syndrome (PAS)? It’s not a disorder, it is a behavior that I see far too often in my practice. If you’re a parent take a minute to read this (for the well being of the kids)!
Read MoreThe Love of Mom!
Being a mom can be the most rewarding, frustrating, and fantastic role of a lifetime! Most every mom I’ve met is doing the best they can raising their adolescent son(s). They don’t need me telling them how hard it is, but they do need help understanding what a boy goes through as he transitions to…
Read MoreMost Common Types of “Absent Dad”
Do you know a dad who is physically present, but absent? Dad doesn’t have to live apart from his son to be absent. Many families may appear to be “intact” with dad acting as the head of household when in fact, his mind and his energy are somewhere else.
Read MoreParenting Boys? This is Must Read!
This is an extremely crucial time for our adolescent boys. Let me repeat, “our boys are in trouble!” As parents, it’s time to be very careful and diligent; refuse to allow your sons to be labeled.
Read MoreFounder of The Quest Project®-Dr. Clay
Choosing a counselor and/or a program for your son is an important step. Both parent and son need to establish a connection with the therapist. It is essential to the work; so, take your time and be confident in your selection process.
Read MoreParenting Sons? You Need a “Trouble Meter!”
Parenting adolescent boys is challenging. My guess is you have at some point said this “my son is drawn to trouble like a magnet!” Am I right? Here’s an exercise you may find helpful.
Read MoreParent(s)-Is Your Family “Shame Based?”
When I begin working with a family; usually regarding their son, during an initial assessment I can discern quickly if it’s a “shame based” family. Shame based families are about controlling behavior to conform (i.e. shame more to get behavior we want). Whether intentional or unintentional it’s fundamental that we clean that up first. Here’s why….
Read MoreParenting Alert! New Normal=New Concerns
The “new normal” and its effect on kids is beginning to show very serious concern. Red flags are popping up all over the United States; stories of teen suicide and depression are heartbreaking. As a parent, in addition to the many other obligations you have, it’s time to pay close attention to signs of depression,…
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