Tips for Dads
Parenting: When to Cope-When to Heal
Lately the new “buzz word” in my field is teaching children “coping skills.” Coping by definition: Coping means to invest one’s own conscious effort, to solve personal and interpersonal problems, in order to try to master, minimize or tolerate stress and conflict. I see it everywhere and here I’ll explain the difference in coping and…
Read MoreChallenge for Change!
I don’t watch a lot of T.V., however I do watch the local and national news. It’s important to know and be aware of what’s happening locally and around the country. One universal message you hear at both levels are stories of boys in trouble. For me as a PhD, Licensed Professional Counselor working with…
Read MoreIn Search of Fathers Wisdom
When an article on boys gets published and catches my eye, I like to share my thoughts with you! This one was written by a mom raising a 12 year old boy; “Raising Better Boys” was in USA Today and here’s what caught my attention. In the midst of innumerable allegations bringing white-hot attention to…
Read MoreWhere in The World is Dr. Clay?
What a significant year for The Quest Project®, and for me personally! Life is a journey and when you allow yourself to grow and expand, it will enhance your mission. Meeting a New Friend When Peter McGennis, filmmaker/producer from Buffalo New York, contacted me about featuring The Quest Project in his upcoming documentary “Within Reach”…
Read MoreFather: Teacher, Mentor & Example
The New York Times ran an op-ed piece by a psychologist/father titled “It’s Dangerous to Be a Boy.” He tells a story about dealing with a situation his son was having as a young man. In part it went like this… After years together laughing and riding their tricycles and then bikes up and down…
Read MoreThe Quest Project: A Parent’s Point of View
Typically, my posts are centered around processes and tips to help parents raising adolescent boys. A very important component of The Quest Project are the five parent meetings that are scheduled throughout the 10-weeks their son is attending Quest. Parents Are Key to Success! I received this email from a Mom that likely echo’s what…
Read MoreSaving Our Adolescent Sons
Art Holiday has a rich history as one of St. Louis finest reporters. When he asked to do a story on The Quest Project, I was honored. However, I first needed permission from both the boys and their parents; once we all agreed I humbly accepted and invited him to group!
Read MoreIn Honor of Father’s Day
As Father’s Day approaches, I consider the best gift I can give Dads out there raising sons! It happens that my recent interview on “KTRS Big 550” with John Carney and Julie Buck is just that; the best gift I can give you.
Read MoreParenting Tip: Want vs Need
Each week I contemplate the subject matter (the theme) that I feel is the most relevant and helpful to the parents reading my blogs. This is a sensitive subject; it’s one that I see parents struggle with. Parents of children at any/all ages.
Read MoreAdolescent Boys and Anxiety
Why are so many young boys experiencing anxiety? As a researcher and facilitator of adolescent boys I am particularly concerned with the number of cases I see. Adolescents Experiencing Anxiety Generally, anxiety is a term used for nervousness, fear, apprehension and worry. If left untreated, chronic anxiety can lead to obsessive-compulsive behavior. And typically, but…
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