Life is What YOU Make It!

Born the eldest of three to Russell and Doris Lessor, I grew up in a small south city neighborhood in St. Louis.  On the outside we looked like a typical happy lower middle-class family, on the inside it was a nightmare of alcoholism and abuse.  I didn’t grow up privileged, I grew up making a…

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9 Reasons for Modern-Day Rite of Passage

A rite of passage for a young male is a transition, and in its simplest terms means “changing from a boy to a man.” Unfortunately today in our society we have forgotten and moved away from recognizing and honoring this time in a young man’s life.  The result is Our Boys are in Trouble! If you read…

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The Special Bond of Father and Son

Father and son share an incredibly special bond, it happens naturally!  Be careful not to miss the especially important role you play in your son’s life. Father and Son Over the years working with adolescent boys in The Quest Project® I am constantly reminded of the important role dad plays in the healthy development of…

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Raising Sons? Teach Integrity

With integrity, you have nothing to fear, since you have nothing to hide. With integrity, you will do the right thing, so you will have no guilt.  -Zig Ziglar Truer words were never spoken! Core Values So what does this have to do with raising sons?  Integrity is a core value; it must be taught…

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Feelings: Mad, Sad, Glad and Afraid

These are the “BIG FOUR” feelings!  Regardless of age or gender, these basic four emotions – mad, sad, glad, and afraid – are appropriate for you.  Feeling, expressing and processing your feelings is healthy and highly recommended! Here’s why. Feeling Mad Feeling “mad” or angry about something?  Oh no!  This feeling scares everyone.  I’m amazed…

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Single Parent Mom Raising Son(s)

These days many single parent Moms are doing the best they can raising their adolescent son(s).  They don’t need me telling them how hard it is, but they do need help understanding what a boy goes through as he transitions to a man.  This is especially true when dad is physically or emotionally absent.

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Simply….. “If”

“If” you have been subscribed to my newsletter since 2015, you’ve read this before!  If not, you’re in for a treat.  It’s time for me to share again as it remains one of my favorite poems.  Originally published in 1910 by Rudyard Kipling, it’s still very relevant today.  Enjoy!

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God Made a Farmer

Do you struggle understanding a “rite of passage” and what it represents? Have you contemplated or wondered why so many males have lost their way?  The Industrial Revolution may have given us a more “modern” society, but it took away the crucial time, teaching and wisdom a father passed on to his son…..a “rite of…

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The Quest Project: Design

The Quest Project: Foundation was in place and The Quest Project: Structure fit nicely on the foundation!  The research was nearly complete, and it was time to bring it all together with the design. Design: A Modern-Day Rite of Passage™ Adler-Locus of Control Adler finds people to consist of an internal locus of control and…

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The Quest Project: Structure

With The Quest Project: Foundation in place, it was time for the structure to take shape.  To do that, the research continued and The Quest Project continued to evolve. Structure: Rite of Passage Gestalt-Group Therapy Group therapy is a  technique manifested as a group of people which meet with a pre-established frequency to share experiences,…

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