The 3 Ways a Father May Be Absent When Present

A father doesn’t have to live apart from his son to be absent. In many families the father is physically present, living in the same house as his son, acting as the head of the household, but for whatever reason, his mind and his energy are somewhere else.

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Labels Are for Packages

This is an extremely crucial time for our adolescent boys.  And I’ll say it again “our boys are in trouble!” It’s time to be very careful and diligent as parents to refuse to allow your sons to be labeled. Headed in the Wrong Direction I know that if we, as a society, continue this trajectory–the…

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The Masculinity-Bashing Bandwagon

The Bashing The American Psychological Assoc. (APA) released new “guidelines” on how psychologists should begin to deal with men and boys. They claim that their research proves traditional masculinity is causing men and boys to do a plethora of terrible things. On the heels of that very disturbing release was a new commercial by Gillette,…

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Parenting Advice: Do You Foster PAS?

Have you heard the term Parent Alienation Syndrome, or PAS? It’s not a disorder, it is a behavior that I see on a regular basis in my practice. In a nutshell, it is a term used to describe distinctive behaviors shown by children who have been psychologically manipulated. These behaviors include unwarranted fear, disrespect or…

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Counseling for Boys-Today’s Challenges

I wrote about the challenge of “parenting boys today;” here’s some insight into the challenges we face as counselors you may find helpful as well. I Don’t Need Counseling! The first most obvious hurdle to overcome is “in general” males aren’t comfortable with counseling!  That goes for the young adolescent boy all the way to the…

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Parenting Boys? Todays Challenges

Parenting Boys

I promised you more “sneak peeks” into my upcoming book.  It’s about fathers and sons; insight into the past, present and future of the relationship or lack thereof between them. Today’s Parent Today’s parent faces modern challenges.  It is how they handle those challenges that has become super important.  I say that because as society has matured and become more automated,…

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Giving Your Son Permission to Cry

Has anyone ever said to you “maybe you just need a good cry?”  In the therapy field we call those “cleansing tears!”  Bottom line is it’s okay to cry; and frankly, it can be very good for you especially when you’re grieving.  And guess what, kids feel grief and need to grieve too! The Grief…

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Help Your Son Replace Anger With Joy!

If I had a dollar for every time a parent said to me “my son is so angry” I’d be rich! Anger-It’s a Part of Life I was raised by a very angry father (he raged).  The issue for me in my life wasn’t that he was angry, it was how he handled the anger. …

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The Father-Son Relationship

Every now and then in my program, The Quest Project, a boy will say something that makes what I do the best job in the world! Likely if you read my newsletters you know I talk a lot about the Industrial Revolution and how it drastically changed families.  Particularly the relationships between father and son.

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