The Love of Mom!

Being a mom can be the most rewarding, frustrating, and fantastic role of a lifetime!  Most every mom I’ve met is doing the best they can raising their adolescent son(s).  They don’t need me telling them how hard it is, but they do need help understanding what a boy goes through as he transitions to…

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Most Common Types of “Absent Dad”

Do you know a dad who is physically present, but absent?  Dad doesn’t have to live apart from his son to be absent. Many families may appear to be “intact” with dad acting as the head of household when in fact, his mind and his energy are somewhere else.

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Parenting Boys? This is Must Read!

This is an extremely crucial time for our adolescent boys.  Let me repeat, “our boys are in trouble!” As parents, it’s time to be very careful and diligent; refuse to allow your sons to be labeled.

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Founder of The Quest Project®-Dr. Clay

Choosing a counselor and/or a program for your son is an important step.   Both parent and son need to establish a connection with the therapist.  It is essential to the work; so, take your time and be confident in your selection process.

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Parent(s)-Is Your Family “Shame Based?”

When I begin working with a family; usually regarding their son, during an initial assessment I can discern quickly if it’s a “shame based” family.  Shame based families are about controlling behavior to conform (i.e. shame more to get behavior we want). Whether intentional or unintentional it’s fundamental that we clean that up first. Here’s why….

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Parenting Alert! New Normal=New Concerns

The “new normal” and its effect on kids is beginning to show very serious concern.  Red flags are popping up all over the United States; stories of teen suicide and depression are heartbreaking.  As a parent, in addition to the many other obligations you have, it’s time to pay close attention to signs of depression,…

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Seasons Greetings from The Quest Project®

Season’s Greetings and Happy Holidays!  The Quest Project® is and always has been a labor of love, this year was filled with unexpected challenges and obstacles.  Combined with your continued dedication and support, and my mission “to create healthy lifestyles by teaching, facilitating, research, writing and example we are helping our boys grow into healthy,…

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The Quest Project-Testimonial

There is no better compliment or greater satisfaction than receiving a testimonial from one of my past clients.  Periodically I will hear from a parent, in this case, it comes from a young man who is in his second year of a PhD program at Harvard!

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Meet “Phoney:” The New Nanny!

Let me introduce you to “Phoney” the new reliable, relatively inexpensive nanny.  Its very busy these days; responsibilities include entertaining, and in some cases educating your son.  Not my son, what’s he talking about you ask?  Does your son have a phone?  If the answer is “yes,” you’ve likely allowed the phone (who I refer…

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