Back to School Anxiety

The start of a new school year can be an “anxious time” for adolescents.  The uncertainty of the past couple of years has only contributed to the anxiety so many children are feeling. Generally, anxiety is a term used for nervousness, fear, apprehension and worry.

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Parent Tested-Kid Approved!

Wouldn’t it be great if there was a recipe to follow for raising your adolescent son?  We follow recipes all the time when we cook, in fact we use caution when “winging it” in cooking as it can be a disaster!

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Introducing-Adult Quest!

This past year has been a doozy!  It has touched each one of us; some positive lessons learned and some, not so much. Adults had to completely upend their life and their family’s life.  Some grew closer and some did not.

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A Father’s Day Message

Fathers Day is a time of reflection for some of us.  For all you new dads it’s a special day of celebration.  And for some dads it’s a wake up call, because you haven’t been present.  I always wanted to write a song, if I did it would sound like this!  Some of you will…

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The Love of Mom!

Being a mom can be the most rewarding, frustrating, and fantastic role of a lifetime!  Most every mom I’ve met is doing the best they can raising their adolescent son(s).  They don’t need me telling them how hard it is, but they do need help understanding what a boy goes through as he transitions to…

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Most Common Types of “Absent Dad”

Do you know a dad who is physically present, but absent?  Dad doesn’t have to live apart from his son to be absent. Many families may appear to be “intact” with dad acting as the head of household when in fact, his mind and his energy are somewhere else.

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Parenting Boys? This is Must Read!

This is an extremely crucial time for our adolescent boys.  Let me repeat, “our boys are in trouble!” As parents, it’s time to be very careful and diligent; refuse to allow your sons to be labeled.

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Founder of The Quest Project®-Dr. Clay

Choosing a counselor and/or a program for your son is an important step.   Both parent and son need to establish a connection with the therapist.  It is essential to the work; so, take your time and be confident in your selection process.

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Parent(s)-Is Your Family “Shame Based?”

When I begin working with a family; usually regarding their son, during an initial assessment I can discern quickly if it’s a “shame based” family.  Shame based families are about controlling behavior to conform (i.e. shame more to get behavior we want). Whether intentional or unintentional it’s fundamental that we clean that up first. Here’s why….

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