Raising Boys? 5 Warning Signs of Trouble

As the new school year gets underway, it’s a good time to reiterate the warning signs of trouble if you notice a change in your son.  It may be typical angst; here’s the difference. Over the past 20 years I have helped countless male adolescents make the transition from boyhood to adult life with my program, The Quest Project.  Some were…

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Parenting: When to Cope-When to Heal

Lately the new “buzz word” in my field is teaching children “coping skills.”  Coping by definition: Coping means to invest one’s own conscious effort, to solve personal and interpersonal problems, in order to try to master, minimize or tolerate stress and conflict. I see it everywhere and here I’ll explain the difference in coping and…

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Challenge for Change!

I don’t watch a lot of T.V., however I do watch the local and national news.  It’s important to know and be aware of what’s happening locally and around the country.  One universal message you hear at both levels are stories of boys in trouble. For me as a PhD, Licensed Professional Counselor working with…

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In Search of Fathers Wisdom

When an article on boys gets published and catches my eye, I like to share my thoughts with you!  This one was written by a mom raising a 12 year old boy; “Raising Better Boys” was in USA Today and here’s what caught my attention. In the midst of innumerable allegations bringing white-hot attention to…

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The Quest Project: A Parent’s Point of View

Typically, my posts are centered around processes and tips to help parents raising adolescent boys.  A very important component of The Quest Project are the five parent meetings that are scheduled throughout the 10-weeks their son is attending Quest. Parents Are Key to Success! I received this email from a Mom that likely echo’s what…

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Saving Our Adolescent Sons

Art Holiday has a rich history as one of St. Louis finest reporters.  When he asked to do a story on The Quest Project, I was honored.  However, I first needed permission from both the boys and their parents; once we all agreed I humbly accepted and invited him to group!

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Adolescent Boys and Anxiety

Why are so many young boys experiencing anxiety?  As a researcher and facilitator of adolescent boys I am particularly concerned with the number of cases I see. Adolescents Experiencing Anxiety Generally, anxiety is a term used for nervousness, fear, apprehension and worry.  If left untreated, chronic anxiety can lead to obsessive-compulsive behavior.  And typically, but…

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Parenting Boys? Competition is Good

I am constantly reading, researching and contemplating the best methods for raising a happy, healthy and responsible adolescent boy.  There is always an article boasting “the latest/greatest way.” I am addressing here the subject of competition from the American Counseling Assoc. (ACA)!

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Is Your Son in Trouble? Dr. Clay Offers Insight

Is your son in trouble?  If you missed my recent interview with John Pertzborn on Fox 2, you’re in luck;  I’ve provided it here!  We discuss what boys need, absent fathers, The Quest Project, and what the Coalition for a White House Council on Men and Boys is hoping to accomplish.

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Boys Here on Planet Earth

I’m sure you remember a few years ago the book that said men and women are from different planets!  An interesting spin on the fact that men and women, boys and girls are “wired” very differently.  Keep this in mind as I share a recent situation. One of the families I’m working with was getting…

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