In Search of Fathers Wisdom

When an article on boys gets published and catches my eye, I like to share my thoughts with you!  This one was written by a mom raising a 12 year old boy; “Raising Better Boys” was in USA Today and here’s what caught my attention. In the midst of innumerable allegations bringing white-hot attention to…

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The Quest Project: A Parent’s Point of View

Typically, my posts are centered around processes and tips to help parents raising adolescent boys.  A very important component of The Quest Project are the five parent meetings that are scheduled throughout the 10-weeks their son is attending Quest. Parents Are Key to Success! I received this email from a Mom that likely echo’s what…

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Saving Our Adolescent Sons

Art Holiday has a rich history as one of St. Louis finest reporters.  When he asked to do a story on The Quest Project, I was honored.  However, I first needed permission from both the boys and their parents; once we all agreed I humbly accepted and invited him to group!

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Adolescent Boys and Anxiety

Why are so many young boys experiencing anxiety?  As a researcher and facilitator of adolescent boys I am particularly concerned with the number of cases I see. Adolescents Experiencing Anxiety Generally, anxiety is a term used for nervousness, fear, apprehension and worry.  If left untreated, chronic anxiety can lead to obsessive-compulsive behavior.  And typically, but…

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Parenting Boys? Competition is Good

I am constantly reading, researching and contemplating the best methods for raising a happy, healthy and responsible adolescent boy.  There is always an article boasting “the latest/greatest way.” I am addressing here the subject of competition from the American Counseling Assoc. (ACA)!

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Is Your Son in Trouble? Dr. Clay Offers Insight

Is your son in trouble?  If you missed my recent interview with John Pertzborn on Fox 2, you’re in luck;  I’ve provided it here!  We discuss what boys need, absent fathers, The Quest Project, and what the Coalition for a White House Council on Men and Boys is hoping to accomplish.

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Boys Here on Planet Earth

I’m sure you remember a few years ago the book that said men and women are from different planets!  An interesting spin on the fact that men and women, boys and girls are “wired” very differently.  Keep this in mind as I share a recent situation. One of the families I’m working with was getting…

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Dr. Clay on “Big 550-KTRS”

I had a very poignant conversation with Jennifer Blome of  The Jennifer and Jay Show.  We talk about my life growing up with an abusive alcoholic father and how it destroyed our relationship.  It took courage, forgiveness and the ability to seek help to turn my life around.  We cover it all in this interview! 

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Beyond Risk & Back Podcast

I recently had a great interview with Aaron Huey, founder of Fire Mountain on his show “Beyond Risk & Back.” Aaron works with “at risk” teens through his residential programs in Colorado. Aaron is a true “man among men!”

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Breaking News!

St. Louis’s Clayton Lessor, PhD, LPC to Join Coalition for a White House Council on Men and Boys   St. Louis (March 11, 2019) – Local expert and author Dr. Clay Lessor has been appointed to the steering committee for the Coalition for a White House Council on Men and Boys.  Dr. Lessor has dedicated…

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