From Boy to Man
Masculinity Is Not The Enemy
We’re hearing a lot these days about masculinity and boys. Most of what’s being said I disagree with! Masculinity Masculinity is being attacked as a problem, a bad thing, that it’s toxic. As a facilitator, researcher and male I find this disturbing! Masculinity isn’t why a boy would walk into a school and begin shooting. Masculinity…
Read MoreThe Quest Project-A Testimonial
Sharing a testimonial that is both validating and inspiring for me in the work that I do in The Quest Project®. Saying Thank You After a recent The Quest Project graduation, I received a very special Thank You note from a parent. Here’s what they said: Dr. Clay, We wanted to say THANK YOU for…
Read MoreHelping Sons on The Tom Roten Morning Show
Hope you enjoy this interview with Tom Roten of The Tom Roten Morning Show on WVHU! Tom’s a good man and I appreciate him helping me to spread the word! “ Help your son grow into the man he’s meant to be! | The Tom Roten Morning Show | NewsRadio 800 WVHU…
Read More“Shame”-A Bad Five Letter Word
Your adolescent son shouldn’t feel shame. Sadly he most likely does. How does this happen and why would he feel shame? In a recent interview I was asked this question “why are boys in trouble?” One of many reasons is they carry shame. The interviewer was shocked and went on to ask, “How can a young boy feel shame about something…
Read MoreSharing My Message on The McGraw Show
It was an honor to be a guest on The McGraw Show! I want to share the interview with all of you. KTRS “The Big 550” McGraw Millhaven and Kelly Jackson, both Emmy nominated journalists, are some of St. Louis finest radio personalities. I was honored to be invited to talk about “Saving Our Sons-A Parent’s Guide…
Read MoreParenting Boys? The 5 Signs of Trouble
Don’t ignore the warning signs, you may think your son is just going through a phase, but that’s not always the case. Your son could be in trouble. It may be typical angst; here’s the difference. Over the past 20 years I have helped countless troubled teens make the transition from boyhood to adult life with my program, The Quest Project. The Warning Signs Boys are…
Read MoreRaising Sons? Discipline vs Punishment
Discipline or Punishment? What’s the difference you ask! There’s a big difference between discipline and punishment. Punishment. So your son has broken the rules; he’s been caught drinking or smoking, maybe a bad report card? You have to do “something,” he’ll have to be punished. The way to stop a child from misbehaving is to cause some…
Read MoreThe Quest Project-For Dad!
Dad, Welcome to The Quest Project® My recent inspiration for writing book #2 came from a very welcome change I am seeing in my practice, let me share more. Change Is Very Good Over the last 20 years, I have seen over 2000 boys go through The Quest Project®. What’s changed? In the past, the majority of…
Read MoreIs Your Son Being Bullied? 10 Signs To Watch For
Bullied: Online & Offline Today we not only deal with the “bully on the playground,” we must watch out for the ones that lurk on social media! Bullies can have a devastating effect on your child. What Parent’s Can Do As a parent, the best way to make sure your child doesn’t become a victim of bullying…
Read MoreThe Adolescent Boy “Cookbook”
During an interview recently I made a comment that I’ve replayed in my head! “Wouldn’t it be great if there was a recipe to follow for every situation you’ll face with your adolescent son?” Just Add Water When I was in my twenties my mom gave me a cookbook “The Encyclopedia of Creative Cooking.” I…
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