Saving Our Sons
Raising Boys? 5 Warning Signs of Trouble
As the new school year gets underway, it’s a good time to reiterate the warning signs of trouble if you notice a change in your son. It may be typical angst; here’s the difference. Over the past 20 years I have helped countless male adolescents make the transition from boyhood to adult life with my program, The Quest Project. Some were…
Read More7 Warning Signs of Suicide
It’s hard to find a family that hasn’t been affected by suicide. Suicide is the 10th-leading cause of death in the United States. You hear about it on the news, or from a friend or co-worker who’s dealing with the pain of losing a loved one. Personally and Professionally As a therapist I’m trained to…
Read MoreParenting: When to Cope-When to Heal
Lately the new “buzz word” in my field is teaching children “coping skills.” Coping by definition: Coping means to invest one’s own conscious effort, to solve personal and interpersonal problems, in order to try to master, minimize or tolerate stress and conflict. I see it everywhere and here I’ll explain the difference in coping and…
Read MoreDr. Clay Receives “Pay It Forward” Award!
“It’s a labor of love.” That’s how Dr. Clay describes his work with Charity Patch and the group of Quest Project young men that show up every Saturday during the summer to help.
Read MoreChallenge for Change!
I don’t watch a lot of T.V., however I do watch the local and national news. It’s important to know and be aware of what’s happening locally and around the country. One universal message you hear at both levels are stories of boys in trouble. For me as a PhD, Licensed Professional Counselor working with…
Read MoreGraduating The Quest Project®
When a young man completes The Quest Project®, he’s successfully completed 10-weeks of intensive therapy processes! For that, we celebrate with a big graduation ceremony recognizing the work.
Read MoreIn Search of Fathers Wisdom
When an article on boys gets published and catches my eye, I like to share my thoughts with you! This one was written by a mom raising a 12 year old boy; “Raising Better Boys” was in USA Today and here’s what caught my attention. In the midst of innumerable allegations bringing white-hot attention to…
Read MoreWhere in The World is Dr. Clay?
What a significant year for The Quest Project®, and for me personally! Life is a journey and when you allow yourself to grow and expand, it will enhance your mission. Meeting a New Friend When Peter McGennis, filmmaker/producer from Buffalo New York, contacted me about featuring The Quest Project in his upcoming documentary “Within Reach”…
Read MoreFather: Teacher, Mentor & Example
The New York Times ran an op-ed piece by a psychologist/father titled “It’s Dangerous to Be a Boy.” He tells a story about dealing with a situation his son was having as a young man. In part it went like this… After years together laughing and riding their tricycles and then bikes up and down…
Read MoreParenting Boys: 4 Tips to Teach Empathy
As an avid researcher, when I detect a shift or change in adolescent behavior, I dig in with the goal of determining the cause. Naturally as the facilitator of The Quest Project-A Modern Day Rite-of-Passage program for adolescent boys my observations are “real time and accurate!”
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