Posts Tagged ‘fathers and sons’
Parenting Tip: Focus on Needs
If I ask you “what do you want” what’s the first thing that comes to mind? Now, take a minute and answer this question “do you need it?” Likely you don’t, it’s something you “want” but you don’t necessarily “need” it. Ultimately, we all NEED these 4 things:
Read MoreA Father’s Day Message
Fathers Day is a time of reflection for some of us. For all you new dads it’s a special day of celebration. And for some dads it’s a wake up call, because you haven’t been present. I always wanted to write a song, if I did it would sound like this! Some of you will…
Read MoreParenting: Heard of PAS?
Familiar with the term Parent Alienation Syndrome (PAS)? It’s not a disorder, it is a behavior that I see far too often in my practice. If you’re a parent take a minute to read this (for the well being of the kids)!
Read MoreMost Common Types of “Absent Dad”
Do you know a dad who is physically present, but absent? Dad doesn’t have to live apart from his son to be absent. Many families may appear to be “intact” with dad acting as the head of household when in fact, his mind and his energy are somewhere else.
Read MoreParenting Boys? This is Must Read!
This is an extremely crucial time for our adolescent boys. Let me repeat, “our boys are in trouble!” As parents, it’s time to be very careful and diligent; refuse to allow your sons to be labeled.
Read MoreParent(s)-Is Your Family “Shame Based?”
When I begin working with a family; usually regarding their son, during an initial assessment I can discern quickly if it’s a “shame based” family. Shame based families are about controlling behavior to conform (i.e. shame more to get behavior we want). Whether intentional or unintentional it’s fundamental that we clean that up first. Here’s why….
Read More“The Train of Life”
Periodically I am moved by a poem or quote that I have read or received. If you follow me, you know that one of those poems is by Rudyard Kipling “If.” Recently one of my dear friends, my United States Air Force buddy sent me this.
Read More4 Parenting Tips: Raising Young Men 17-19
It’s not easy raising boys 11-13 and 14-16 years old. However young men in the 17-19 age group are unique and I’ll tell you why. They are (or should be) young adults at this point. That doesn’t mean you stop parenting but more importantly, he needs your help “preparing for” critical next steps. The most…
Read More5 Parenting Tips: For Boys 11-13
Looking for parenting tips on what’s happening with your 11-13 year old son? I’ve worked with over 2,000 boys for more than 20 years in The Quest Project® a 10-week Modern Day Rite of Passage® program. We meet in age appropriate groups: 11 to 13, 14 to 16, and 17 to 19-year-olds. Here I focus…
Read MoreParenting Tip: Peer Pressure and Your Son
It’s time for a new school year to begin. As you monitor grades, homework and schedules, don’t forget to watch for social changes that may be related to peer pressure. Peer pressure is by definition: Social pressure by members of one’s peer group to take a certain action, adopt certain values, or otherwise conform in…
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