The Wisdom of a Farmer!

So many males, both young and old have lost their way.  The Industrial Revolution may have given us a more “modern” society, but it took away a very crucial time, the teaching and wisdom a father passes on to his son…..a “rite of passage.” Since then, every male has carried that as a “wound.”

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Proud Veteran-USAF

At 18 years of age, just out of high school, me and my buddy Jay enlisted in the United States Air Force.  It was an easy decision for me; I was lost with no direction in my life.  Jay and I had a lot of adventures together, and this would prove to be the biggest and…

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Parent(s)-Is Your Family “Shame Based?”

When I begin working with a family; usually regarding their son, during an initial assessment I can discern quickly if it’s a “shame based” family.  Shame based families are about controlling behavior to conform (i.e. shame more to get behavior we want). Whether intentional or unintentional it’s fundamental that we clean that up first. Here’s why….

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The Quest Project-Testimonial

There is no better compliment or greater satisfaction than receiving a testimonial from one of my past clients.  Periodically I will hear from a parent, in this case, it comes from a young man who is in his second year of a PhD program at Harvard!

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4 Parenting Tips: Raising Young Men 17-19

It’s not easy raising boys 11-13 and 14-16 years old.  However young men in the 17-19 age group are unique and I’ll tell you why.  They are (or should be) young adults at this point.  That doesn’t mean you stop parenting but more importantly, he needs your help “preparing for” critical next steps.  The most…

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Proud Patriot!

I am a proud Patriot of this country.  An important part of my story that brings me to where I am today, and why I do the work I do to help boys is a result of my time in the United States Air Force. It Starts Like This Enlisting in the United States Air…

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9 Reasons for Modern-Day Rite of Passage

A rite of passage for a young male is a transition, and in its simplest terms means “changing from a boy to a man.” Unfortunately today in our society we have forgotten and moved away from recognizing and honoring this time in a young man’s life.  The result is Our Boys are in Trouble! If you read…

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Single Parent Mom Raising Son(s)

These days many single parent Moms are doing the best they can raising their adolescent son(s).  They don’t need me telling them how hard it is, but they do need help understanding what a boy goes through as he transitions to a man.  This is especially true when dad is physically or emotionally absent.

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Simply….. “If”

“If” you have been subscribed to my newsletter since 2015, you’ve read this before!  If not, you’re in for a treat.  It’s time for me to share again as it remains one of my favorite poems.  Originally published in 1910 by Rudyard Kipling, it’s still very relevant today.  Enjoy!

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God Made a Farmer

Do you struggle understanding a “rite of passage” and what it represents? Have you contemplated or wondered why so many males have lost their way?  The Industrial Revolution may have given us a more “modern” society, but it took away the crucial time, teaching and wisdom a father passed on to his son…..a “rite of…

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