Parents: Time for a “System” Check-Up?

Systems are all around us.  We have stereo systems, navigation systems, computer systems; the human body is a system! Periodically they ALL require a check-up and maintenance. A “system” is: a set of things working together as parts of a mechanism or an interconnecting network

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The Quest Project-Year in Review

Greetings and Happy Holidays to you all!  The Quest Project® is a labor of love, this year was filled with accomplishments and growth.  With your continued dedication and support, together we will help our boys grow into healthy, happy young men. A Year in Review The year started with the publication of “Generation of Men-How…

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#1 Parenting Tip: Be an Effective Team!

Did you see the movie “Oblivion?”  It came out in 2013 and starred Tom Cruise.  “Jack” and his partner were tasked with “post-apocalyptic” missions; everyday they were asked to answer this question from headquarters “are you still an effective team?” Teamwork Makes the Dream Work! When I counsel couples one of the exercises we go…

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Raising Boys? Research to Support the Facts

I’ve been providing you a series of blogs that contain information you need to know if you’re raising boys.  Starting with “Economically Undesirable Men”  where I shared the disturbing article claiming unmarried women are finding today’s unmarried men “undesirable.” The facts aren’t an attempt to justify, they are meant as a call to action for…

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Raising Boys? The Facts Don’t Lie

Clayton Lessor

In the blog titled “Economically Undesirable Men” I touched on a subject I think surprised many of my readers.  It’s shocking and potentially unbelievable for many of you, so here are the facts! These facts tell the story:

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Economically Undesirable Men?

An article published in the Journal of Family and Marriage titled “Mismatches in the Marriage Market” published last month has fired me up; and my hope is it fires you up too! The article addresses what it calls a shortage of “economically attractive” unmarried men….according to unmarried women!  Unmarried women find the available men undesirable…

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Raising Boys? 5 Warning Signs of Trouble

As the new school year gets underway, it’s a good time to reiterate the warning signs of trouble if you notice a change in your son.  It may be typical angst; here’s the difference. Over the past 20 years I have helped countless male adolescents make the transition from boyhood to adult life with my program, The Quest Project.  Some were…

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7 Warning Signs of Suicide

It’s hard to find a family that hasn’t been affected by suicide.  Suicide is the 10th-leading cause of death in the United States. You hear about it on the news, or from a friend or co-worker who’s dealing with the pain of losing a loved one. Personally and Professionally As a therapist I’m trained to…

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Parenting: When to Cope-When to Heal

Lately the new “buzz word” in my field is teaching children “coping skills.”  Coping by definition: Coping means to invest one’s own conscious effort, to solve personal and interpersonal problems, in order to try to master, minimize or tolerate stress and conflict. I see it everywhere and here I’ll explain the difference in coping and…

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Challenge for Change!

I don’t watch a lot of T.V., however I do watch the local and national news.  It’s important to know and be aware of what’s happening locally and around the country.  One universal message you hear at both levels are stories of boys in trouble. For me as a PhD, Licensed Professional Counselor working with…

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