Posts Tagged ‘troubled boys’
The 3 Ways a Father May Be Absent When Present
A father doesn’t have to live apart from his son to be absent. In many families the father is physically present, living in the same house as his son, acting as the head of the household, but for whatever reason, his mind and his energy are somewhere else.
Read MoreHave We Met?
My name is Clayton Lessor, PhD, LPC and it is my life’s mission to work with adolescent boys, I have done just that for the last 25 years. I am a licensed professional counselor, facilitator and author. I have a new book out titled “Generation of Men: How to raise your son to be a…
Read MoreLabels Are for Packages
This is an extremely crucial time for our adolescent boys. And I’ll say it again “our boys are in trouble!” It’s time to be very careful and diligent as parents to refuse to allow your sons to be labeled. Headed in the Wrong Direction I know that if we, as a society, continue this trajectory–the…
Read MoreHave You Considered “What-If?”
Do you ask yourself “what if?” Are you prepared, or have what I like to call a “Plan B?” I personally go through the exercise of both. I start by asking myself “what if,” and based on the answer I put together my “Plan B!” Learned My Lesson Early Growing up in a house with…
Read MoreThe Masculinity-Bashing Bandwagon
The Bashing The American Psychological Assoc. (APA) released new “guidelines” on how psychologists should begin to deal with men and boys. They claim that their research proves traditional masculinity is causing men and boys to do a plethora of terrible things. On the heels of that very disturbing release was a new commercial by Gillette,…
Read MoreCounseling for Boys-Today’s Challenges
I wrote about the challenge of “parenting boys today;” here’s some insight into the challenges we face as counselors you may find helpful as well. I Don’t Need Counseling! The first most obvious hurdle to overcome is “in general” males aren’t comfortable with counseling! That goes for the young adolescent boy all the way to the…
Read MoreParenting Boys? Todays Challenges
I promised you more “sneak peeks” into my upcoming book. It’s about fathers and sons; insight into the past, present and future of the relationship or lack thereof between them. Today’s Parent Today’s parent faces modern challenges. It is how they handle those challenges that has become super important. I say that because as society has matured and become more automated,…
Read MoreThe Quest Project Getting a New Look!
Rebranding a company is a massive undertaking! In fact, it tests patience, resolve and frankly pushes every emotional button. It’s change; it’s important to change! So, get ready as I get prepared to roll out a whole new look for The Quest Project and a whole new look for my next book.
Read MoreFive and 6 of 9 Reasons ALL Boys Need a Rite-of-Passage
This week a couple of my favorites! The Gift and Empathy; both are so important to raising a happy, healthy and responsible young man. Golden Gift 5.) We all have a gift, it’s what makes us unique and different; your son needs to know what gifts he was born with. He needs to know his Golden Gift.…
Read MoreThree and 4 of 9 Reasons ALL Boys Need a Rite-of-Passage
Last week I expanded on what it means when a boy begins to transition to a man and the importance of goal setting. This week I give more detail on both anger and conflict. During adolescence a boy begins to self regulate anger and he learns how to resolve conflict. Teaching, guidance and support is critical. Anger-One of the “Big 4”…
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