Parenting Tips
Who Is Dr. Clay?
As a facilitator of The Quest Project®, I am in the “trenches” with the boys that come to see me, I’m good at it! I know how to quickly uncover and get to the wound an adolescent boy carries. Since 2000 I have facilitated 2000+ adolescent boys in their growth, healing and quest to becoming a responsible man! No Time…
Read MoreNinth of 9 Reasons ALL Boys Need A Rite-of-Passage
I detailed relationships and the value system last week. For the ninth and final reason ALL boys need a rite-of-passage, I dedicate the entire blog to life mission. It’s a very important step; in my experience most of the young men I facilitate in The Quest Project® have not considered or thought about their life mission. I get it! As a young man…
Read MoreSeven and 8 of 9 Reasons ALL Boys Need a Rite-of-Passage
In last week’s blog I covered “the gift” and “empathy.” One of my favorite moments when I’m working with young men is the moment they “lay claim” to their “gift!” The sense of empowerment allows them to embrace life and be more confident. It sets a perfect stage to move on to 7 & 8 (relationships and a value system)…
Read MoreFive and 6 of 9 Reasons ALL Boys Need a Rite-of-Passage
This week a couple of my favorites! The Gift and Empathy; both are so important to raising a happy, healthy and responsible young man. Golden Gift 5.) We all have a gift, it’s what makes us unique and different; your son needs to know what gifts he was born with. He needs to know his Golden Gift.…
Read MoreThree and 4 of 9 Reasons ALL Boys Need a Rite-of-Passage
Last week I expanded on what it means when a boy begins to transition to a man and the importance of goal setting. This week I give more detail on both anger and conflict. During adolescence a boy begins to self regulate anger and he learns how to resolve conflict. Teaching, guidance and support is critical. Anger-One of the “Big 4”…
Read MoreFirst 2 of 9 Reasons ALL Boys Need a Rite-of-Passage
When I wrote the 9 Reasons ALL Boys Need a Modern-Day Rite-of-Passage there was a surge in interest! That tells me parents of boys are waking up to the critical needs of their sons. They’re asking themselves-“What’s missing?” Over the next few weeks, I’ll take those Top 9 Reasons and break them down and…
Read More9 Reasons ALL Boys Need A Modern-Day Rite-of-Passage
Rite-of-passage for males is a transition, and in its simplest terms means “changing from a boy to a man.” Sounds easy right? It’s not! It’s unfortunate that today in our society we have forgotten and moved away from recognizing and honoring this time in a young man’s life. The result is Our Boys are in Trouble! If you read…
Read MoreParenting Tip: 5 Signs of Peer Pressure
I find one of the issues I deal with on a regular basis in my practice is this one: Peer Pressure! Peer Pressure-Not to Be Underestimated Peer pressure is something all kids are forced to deal with at some point. Commonly it happens at school and/or the neighborhood kids that get together to play. It’s how…
Read MoreA Society of Absent Fathers
We’re all entitled to an opinion, right? Do you remember Andy Rooney, he used to give his straight forward and sometimes controversial opinion at the end of 60 Minutes? I’d like to share mine and it has to do with this, the effect the absent father is having on society. R-E-S-P-E-C-T I’ve not been shy about…
Read MoreRaising Sons-Is He Bully or Bullied?
When a parent makes the decision it’s time to get a professional opinion; when their son exhibits signs of trouble, it’s critical they be open to the feedback of the professional and keep an open mind! Let me give an example.
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