Five and 6 of 9 Reasons ALL Boys Need a Rite-of-Passage

This week a couple of my favorites!  The Gift and Empathy; both are so important to raising a happy, healthy and responsible young man.  Golden Gift 5.) We all have a gift, it’s what makes us unique and different; your son needs to know what gifts he was born with.  He needs to know his Golden Gift.…

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Three and 4 of 9 Reasons ALL Boys Need a Rite-of-Passage

Last week I expanded on what it means when a boy begins to transition to a man and the importance of goal setting.  This week I give more detail on both anger and conflict.  During adolescence a boy begins to self regulate anger and he learns how to resolve conflict.  Teaching, guidance and support is critical. Anger-One of the “Big 4”…

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First 2 of 9 Reasons ALL Boys Need a Rite-of-Passage

  When I wrote the 9 Reasons ALL Boys Need a Modern-Day Rite-of-Passage there was a surge in interest!  That tells me parents of boys are waking up to the critical needs of their sons.  They’re asking themselves-“What’s missing?”  Over the next few weeks, I’ll take those Top 9 Reasons and break them down and…

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9 Reasons ALL Boys Need A Modern-Day Rite-of-Passage

Rite-of-passage for males is a transition, and in its simplest terms means “changing from a boy to a man.”  Sounds easy right?  It’s not! It’s unfortunate that today in our society we have forgotten and moved away from recognizing and honoring this time in a young man’s life.  The result is Our Boys are in Trouble! If you read…

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Parenting Tip: 5 Signs of Peer Pressure

I find one of the issues I deal with on a regular basis in my practice is this one:  Peer Pressure! Peer Pressure-Not to Be Underestimated Peer pressure is something all kids are forced to deal with at some point.  Commonly it happens at school and/or the neighborhood kids that get together to play.  It’s how…

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A Society of Absent Fathers

We’re all entitled to an opinion, right?  Do you remember Andy Rooney, he used to give his straight forward and sometimes controversial opinion at the end of 60 Minutes?  I’d like to share mine and it has to do with this, the effect the absent father is having on society. R-E-S-P-E-C-T I’ve not been shy about…

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Raising Sons-Is He Bully or Bullied?

When a parent makes the decision it’s time to get a professional opinion; when their son exhibits signs of trouble, it’s critical they be open to the feedback of the professional and keep an open mind! Let me give an example.

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A Story of Volunteerism

  Would you be surprised if I told you a story about seven young men, ages 11-16 working every Saturday in a garden?  Charity Patch is Born Five years ago, my wife and I set out to “find” an initiative we could get behind that would allow us to give back to the community.  Long…

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Dr. Clay on The Tom Roten Morning Show

Can you spare a few minutes to listen to my recent interview with Tom Roten of The Tom Roten Morning Show?  I think you’ll find it helpful; we cover many important topics.  What We Talk About

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The Quest Project-A Young Man’s Testimony

There is no better compliment or greater satisfaction than receiving a testimonial from one of my clients.  Typically I hear from a parent, in this case, it comes from a 16-year-old young man! Testimonial The first time I stepped into Dr. Lessor’s office I had a lot of thoughts on my mind. The relationship between…

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