Saving Our Sons
Adolescent Son In Trouble? Step Three
Last week in Step #2 I gave some examples of when to seek counseling if you suspect your adolescent son is in trouble. You have tried setting boundaries & limits with him from Step #1, and you’ve enlisted the help of a licensed professional counselor; it didn’t work either. Now it’s time for Step #3. Step…
Read More“Shame”-A Bad Five Letter Word
Your adolescent son shouldn’t feel shame. Sadly he most likely does. How does this happen and why would he feel shame? In a recent interview I was asked this question “why are boys in trouble?” One of many reasons is they carry shame. The interviewer was shocked and went on to ask, “How can a young boy feel shame about something…
Read MoreHomework Versus Video Games
Do you get excuses from your son on why his homework and/or his chores didn’t get done? I have some suggestions that may help. “Just a Minute!” My guess is you hear “I will, just a minute” a lot! Based on my experience with the boys I see, homework and chores are not his priority, video games…
Read MoreSharing My Message on The McGraw Show
It was an honor to be a guest on The McGraw Show! I want to share the interview with all of you. KTRS “The Big 550” McGraw Millhaven and Kelly Jackson, both Emmy nominated journalists, are some of St. Louis finest radio personalities. I was honored to be invited to talk about “Saving Our Sons-A Parent’s Guide…
Read MoreParenting Boys? The 5 Signs of Trouble
Don’t ignore the warning signs, you may think your son is just going through a phase, but that’s not always the case. Your son could be in trouble. It may be typical angst; here’s the difference. Over the past 20 years I have helped countless troubled teens make the transition from boyhood to adult life with my program, The Quest Project. The Warning Signs Boys are…
Read MoreParenting Teens? Heroin Spares No One
The stories are disturbing; teens addicted to and dying from heroin. It’s happening right under our nose, in our own backyard, rich and poor communities. It is pervasive, from schools to homes to the streets and parks. The numbers are staggering. But they don’t show the complete picture. “My Son Wouldn’t Do Drugs” That’s the most common response…
Read MoreWalking Tall-A Personal Journey
The Journey of a Thousand Miles Please allow me to share my excitement and experience. I just walked for my PhD! An accomplishment that I’ve been working toward my entire life. Obstacles were abundant, but when you set a goal you just keep going until you achieve it. I did it and it feels amazing! I am officially…
Read MoreRaising Sons? Discipline vs Punishment
Discipline or Punishment? What’s the difference you ask! There’s a big difference between discipline and punishment. Punishment. So your son has broken the rules; he’s been caught drinking or smoking, maybe a bad report card? You have to do “something,” he’ll have to be punished. The way to stop a child from misbehaving is to cause some…
Read MoreThe Quest Project-For Dad!
Dad, Welcome to The Quest Project® My recent inspiration for writing book #2 came from a very welcome change I am seeing in my practice, let me share more. Change Is Very Good Over the last 20 years, I have seen over 2000 boys go through The Quest Project®. What’s changed? In the past, the majority of…
Read MoreThe Adolescent Boy “Cookbook”
During an interview recently I made a comment that I’ve replayed in my head! “Wouldn’t it be great if there was a recipe to follow for every situation you’ll face with your adolescent son?” Just Add Water When I was in my twenties my mom gave me a cookbook “The Encyclopedia of Creative Cooking.” I…
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