Tips for Dads
Feelings: Mad, Sad, Glad and Afraid
These are the “BIG FOUR” feelings! Regardless of age or gender, these basic four emotions – mad, sad, glad, and afraid – are appropriate for you. Feeling, expressing and processing your feelings is healthy and highly recommended! Here’s why. Feeling Mad Feeling “mad” or angry about something? Oh no! This feeling scares everyone. I’m amazed…
Read MoreSingle Parent Mom Raising Son(s)
These days many single parent Moms are doing the best they can raising their adolescent son(s). They don’t need me telling them how hard it is, but they do need help understanding what a boy goes through as he transitions to a man. This is especially true when dad is physically or emotionally absent.
Read MoreParenting Amid Crisis
In the midst of a crisis, your first response may be to seek counseling; due to the unusual circumstances we’re social distancing and staying at home. I’ve talked to parents grateful for the time with their kids and parents that are ready to pull their hair out! Not every family who experiences crisis needs counseling. …
Read MoreSimply….. “If”
“If” you have been subscribed to my newsletter since 2015, you’ve read this before! If not, you’re in for a treat. It’s time for me to share again as it remains one of my favorite poems. Originally published in 1910 by Rudyard Kipling, it’s still very relevant today. Enjoy!
Read More6 Fun Activities While Home!
The old saying “if you live long enough” certainly comes to mind these days! When you’re faced with situations that catch you off guard and frankly create anxiety and stress, it’s a good time to take charge of the feelings and make the best of it!
Read MoreThe Quest Project: Design
The Quest Project: Foundation was in place and The Quest Project: Structure fit nicely on the foundation! The research was nearly complete, and it was time to bring it all together with the design. Design: A Modern-Day Rite of Passage™ Adler-Locus of Control Adler finds people to consist of an internal locus of control and…
Read MoreParents: Time for a “System” Check-Up?
Systems are all around us. We have stereo systems, navigation systems, computer systems; the human body is a system! Periodically they ALL require a check-up and maintenance. A “system” is: a set of things working together as parts of a mechanism or an interconnecting network
Read More#1 Parenting Tip: Be an Effective Team!
Did you see the movie “Oblivion?” It came out in 2013 and starred Tom Cruise. “Jack” and his partner were tasked with “post-apocalyptic” missions; everyday they were asked to answer this question from headquarters “are you still an effective team?” Teamwork Makes the Dream Work! When I counsel couples one of the exercises we go…
Read MoreRaising Boys? Research to Support the Facts
I’ve been providing you a series of blogs that contain information you need to know if you’re raising boys. Starting with “Economically Undesirable Men” where I shared the disturbing article claiming unmarried women are finding today’s unmarried men “undesirable.” The facts aren’t an attempt to justify, they are meant as a call to action for…
Read MoreRaising Boys? 5 Warning Signs of Trouble
As the new school year gets underway, it’s a good time to reiterate the warning signs of trouble if you notice a change in your son. It may be typical angst; here’s the difference. Over the past 20 years I have helped countless male adolescents make the transition from boyhood to adult life with my program, The Quest Project. Some were…
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