Happy Father’s Day!

On this special day, Father’s Day, I hope all the fathers out there remember they are the “conductors of the family train!”  If you follow me, you know that another one of my favorite poems is by Rudyard Kipling “If.”  My dear friend and United States Air Force buddy sent me this poem.  Please enjoy!

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Cleaning Up Unfinished Business!

Parents this one’s for you!  This blog is dedicated to those of us who need to “clean up” that unfinished business that keeps us from being the best mother, father, husband, wife, friend, brother, or sister we can be!

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A Father’s Day Message

Fathers Day is a time of reflection for some of us.  For all you new dads it’s a special day of celebration.  And for some dads it’s a wake up call, because you haven’t been present.  I always wanted to write a song, if I did it would sound like this!  Some of you will…

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Parent(s)-Is Your Family “Shame Based?”

When I begin working with a family; usually regarding their son, during an initial assessment I can discern quickly if it’s a “shame based” family.  Shame based families are about controlling behavior to conform (i.e. shame more to get behavior we want). Whether intentional or unintentional it’s fundamental that we clean that up first. Here’s why….

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The Special Bond of Father and Son

Father and son share an incredibly special bond, it happens naturally!  Be careful not to miss the especially important role you play in your son’s life. Father and Son Over the years working with adolescent boys in The Quest Project® I am constantly reminded of the important role dad plays in the healthy development of…

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Father: Teacher, Mentor & Example

The New York Times ran an op-ed piece by a psychologist/father titled “It’s Dangerous to Be a Boy.”  He tells a story about dealing with a situation his son was having as a young man.  In part it went like this… After years together laughing and riding their tricycles and then bikes up and down…

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Beyond Risk & Back Podcast

I recently had a great interview with Aaron Huey, founder of Fire Mountain on his show “Beyond Risk & Back.” Aaron works with “at risk” teens through his residential programs in Colorado. Aaron is a true “man among men!”

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Have We Met?

My name is Clayton Lessor, PhD, LPC and it is my life’s mission to work with adolescent boys, I have done just that for the last 25 years.  I am a licensed professional counselor, facilitator and author.  I have a new book out titled “Generation of Men: How to raise your son to be a…

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Labels Are for Packages

This is an extremely crucial time for our adolescent boys.  And I’ll say it again “our boys are in trouble!” It’s time to be very careful and diligent as parents to refuse to allow your sons to be labeled. Headed in the Wrong Direction I know that if we, as a society, continue this trajectory–the…

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