Dr. Clay on “Big 550-KTRS”

I had a very poignant conversation with Jennifer Blome of  The Jennifer and Jay Show.  We talk about my life growing up with an abusive alcoholic father and how it destroyed our relationship.  It took courage, forgiveness and the ability to seek help to turn my life around.  We cover it all in this interview! 

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Beyond Risk & Back Podcast

I recently had a great interview with Aaron Huey, founder of Fire Mountain on his show “Beyond Risk & Back.” Aaron works with “at risk” teens through his residential programs in Colorado. Aaron is a true “man among men!”

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Breaking News!

St. Louis’s Clayton Lessor, PhD, LPC to Join Coalition for a White House Council on Men and Boys   St. Louis (March 11, 2019) – Local expert and author Dr. Clay Lessor has been appointed to the steering committee for the Coalition for a White House Council on Men and Boys.  Dr. Lessor has dedicated…

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Have We Met?

My name is Clayton Lessor, PhD, LPC and it is my life’s mission to work with adolescent boys, I have done just that for the last 25 years.  I am a licensed professional counselor, facilitator and author.  I have a new book out titled “Generation of Men: How to raise your son to be a…

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Labels Are for Packages

This is an extremely crucial time for our adolescent boys.  And I’ll say it again “our boys are in trouble!” It’s time to be very careful and diligent as parents to refuse to allow your sons to be labeled. Headed in the Wrong Direction I know that if we, as a society, continue this trajectory–the…

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Have You Considered “What-If?”

Do you ask yourself “what if?”  Are you prepared, or have what I like to call a “Plan B?”  I personally go through the exercise of both.  I start by asking myself “what if,” and based on the answer I put together my “Plan B!” Learned My Lesson Early Growing up in a house with…

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The Masculinity-Bashing Bandwagon

The Bashing The American Psychological Assoc. (APA) released new “guidelines” on how psychologists should begin to deal with men and boys. They claim that their research proves traditional masculinity is causing men and boys to do a plethora of terrible things. On the heels of that very disturbing release was a new commercial by Gillette,…

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Feelings of Gratitude and Thanks

It’s that time of year!  A time to give thanks and reflect. Thankful and Grateful First and foremost, I am thankful for my family and friends and all the blessings they bring to my life.  This year was especially difficult on my best friend Pinot (dachshund) he underwent his fifth back surgery that left him unable to walk. …

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Help Your Son Replace Anger With Joy!

If I had a dollar for every time a parent said to me “my son is so angry” I’d be rich! Anger-It’s a Part of Life I was raised by a very angry father (he raged).  The issue for me in my life wasn’t that he was angry, it was how he handled the anger. …

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The Father-Son Relationship

Every now and then in my program, The Quest Project, a boy will say something that makes what I do the best job in the world! Likely if you read my newsletters you know I talk a lot about the Industrial Revolution and how it drastically changed families.  Particularly the relationships between father and son.

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