Posts Tagged ‘boys to men’
Parenting Tip: Focus on Needs
If I ask you “what do you want” what’s the first thing that comes to mind? Now, take a minute and answer this question “do you need it?” Likely you don’t, it’s something you “want” but you don’t necessarily “need” it. Ultimately, we all NEED these 4 things:
Read MoreFeeling Your Feelings
Feelings! These are the “big four” and regardless of age, ethnicity, or gender, these basic four feelings – mad, sad, glad, and afraid – are appropriate for you. We need to feel our feelings, express our feelings and process those feelings, it’s healthy! Here’s why.
Read MoreParent Tested-Kid Approved!
Wouldn’t it be great if there was a recipe to follow for raising your adolescent son? We follow recipes all the time when we cook, in fact we use caution when “winging it” in cooking as it can be a disaster!
Read MoreHappy Birthday America!
Celebrating 4th of July for me is a special time. As a 20+ year retired Captain of the United States Air Force it goes without saying, I love my country and I am proud to be an American; at my house we fly the American flag high!
Read MoreA Father’s Day Message
Fathers Day is a time of reflection for some of us. For all you new dads it’s a special day of celebration. And for some dads it’s a wake up call, because you haven’t been present. I always wanted to write a song, if I did it would sound like this! Some of you will…
Read MoreParenting Boys? This is Must Read!
This is an extremely crucial time for our adolescent boys. Let me repeat, “our boys are in trouble!” As parents, it’s time to be very careful and diligent; refuse to allow your sons to be labeled.
Read MoreFounder of The Quest Project®-Dr. Clay
Choosing a counselor and/or a program for your son is an important step. Both parent and son need to establish a connection with the therapist. It is essential to the work; so, take your time and be confident in your selection process.
Read MoreParenting Sons? You Need a “Trouble Meter!”
Parenting adolescent boys is challenging. My guess is you have at some point said this “my son is drawn to trouble like a magnet!” Am I right? Here’s an exercise you may find helpful.
Read MoreParent(s)-Is Your Family “Shame Based?”
When I begin working with a family; usually regarding their son, during an initial assessment I can discern quickly if it’s a “shame based” family. Shame based families are about controlling behavior to conform (i.e. shame more to get behavior we want). Whether intentional or unintentional it’s fundamental that we clean that up first. Here’s why….
Read MoreTeach Your Son Accountability
Teaching your son accountability is as important as teaching honesty, empathy and integrity. Often accountability gets overlooked as a core value; when in fact it’s one of the most important!
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