Posts Tagged ‘life lessons’
The Masculinity-Bashing Bandwagon
The Bashing The American Psychological Assoc. (APA) released new “guidelines” on how psychologists should begin to deal with men and boys. They claim that their research proves traditional masculinity is causing men and boys to do a plethora of terrible things. On the heels of that very disturbing release was a new commercial by Gillette,…
Read MoreA Great New Book-For Dad!
Exactly a year ago I announced my second book would be out shortly! Much has changed, the title the timing as well as the look! What didn’t change is the manuscript. I hope you’ll feel as I do, it was worth the wait! Staring 2019 in the face, I am ready for it to be…
Read MoreParenting Advice: Do You Foster PAS?
Have you heard the term Parent Alienation Syndrome, or PAS? It’s not a disorder, it is a behavior that I see on a regular basis in my practice. In a nutshell, it is a term used to describe distinctive behaviors shown by children who have been psychologically manipulated. These behaviors include unwarranted fear, disrespect or…
Read MoreCounseling for Boys-Today’s Challenges
I wrote about the challenge of “parenting boys today;” here’s some insight into the challenges we face as counselors you may find helpful as well. I Don’t Need Counseling! The first most obvious hurdle to overcome is “in general” males aren’t comfortable with counseling! That goes for the young adolescent boy all the way to the…
Read MoreFeelings of Gratitude and Thanks
It’s that time of year! A time to give thanks and reflect. Thankful and Grateful First and foremost, I am thankful for my family and friends and all the blessings they bring to my life. This year was especially difficult on my best friend Pinot (dachshund) he underwent his fifth back surgery that left him unable to walk. …
Read MoreGiving Your Son Permission to Cry
Has anyone ever said to you “maybe you just need a good cry?” In the therapy field we call those “cleansing tears!” Bottom line is it’s okay to cry; and frankly, it can be very good for you especially when you’re grieving. And guess what, kids feel grief and need to grieve too! The Grief…
Read MoreHelp Your Son Replace Anger With Joy!
If I had a dollar for every time a parent said to me “my son is so angry” I’d be rich! Anger-It’s a Part of Life I was raised by a very angry father (he raged). The issue for me in my life wasn’t that he was angry, it was how he handled the anger. …
Read MoreThe Quest Project Getting a New Look!
Rebranding a company is a massive undertaking! In fact, it tests patience, resolve and frankly pushes every emotional button. It’s change; it’s important to change! So, get ready as I get prepared to roll out a whole new look for The Quest Project and a whole new look for my next book.
Read MoreWho Is Dr. Clay?
As a facilitator of The Quest Project®, I am in the “trenches” with the boys that come to see me, I’m good at it! I know how to quickly uncover and get to the wound an adolescent boy carries. Since 2000 I have facilitated 2000+ adolescent boys in their growth, healing and quest to becoming a responsible man! No Time…
Read MoreWomen’s Quest-A Weekend Workshop
Over the past year I have discovered The Quest Project® is as meaningful to men and women as it is to adolescent boys. Imagine a group of six women ages 20 yrs.-64 yrs. of age coming together over a weekend to work through issues they feel have prevented them from being the women they want to be! The Women’s Quest…
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